Father Daughter relasonship/divorce

Hi my names is Christina im 16 years old

The reason im on here is because my parents divorced two months ago in december and iv been going through a rough time little bit depressed and stuff anyway i know normally adults come on here but iv been feeling extremely alone so i figure there has to be someone out there who understands how i feel

It basically started on november 29th my mom left my dad accused him of cheating (even though it was her who was doing it) in a fit of rage she started attacking him and punching him clawing at him and left in a huge whirlwind she smashed our car window out with the shovel ( i was watching from my room) and my dad for the first time EVER i saw him cry and i felt so terrible i started to cry to. So after that all was quiet for 2 weeks untill my mother comes home with her lawyer with her and sits myself my dad and my 14 year old younger sister down at the table my mom looked at my sister and said she was coming to live with her and the lawyer looked at me and said Christina the choicie is yours you can stay with your mother or with your father.


i looked at my mother and she was just smirking at my dad as if she AUTOMATICALLY assumed i was going to go with her and i said i want to stay with dad he didnt say anything my mom INSTANTLY goes into another whirlwind telling me how ungrateful i am what a disrepectful cheapskate lazy good for nothing daughter iv been my entire life and tells me im going to grow up to be a failure and a few other things i wont mention

So at the time i couldnt hold it in i started crying in front of everybody so my dad stands up and points at my mother and tells her to leave me alone and that he is grateful that im so faithful as to stay with him

So after i said my goodbyes to my sister she slipped me her email so we can still stay in touch ( so i was EXTREMELY happy about that)

My dad told me i could stay home from school for a bit if i wanted to just untill i felt better about the whole thing and i did but only for like 3 days

Finally on december 23rd he comes up to me and asks me how id feel about moving somewhere new a complete restart? (instantly thought anything to get away from here)

So it turns out because my dad was born in the UK we are allowed to move there :)

Instantly the divorce slipped from my mind all i could think about was the extreme excitment of moving to LONDON ))) lol i was very happy my dad was happy to see me that way aswell

so In january 2012 we packed our stuff and set out for the UK i live in westminister in a nice neighbourhood the houses are really funny looking here and it rains ALOTTT hehe but i love it iv made lots of really nice friends Like i made this one guy his name is Nikolai hes from RUSSIA i know cool right haha and hes really sweet and friendly he actully asked me on a date yesterday and im still debating weather to say yes but thats another topic lol

anyway so since venturing here my dad has gotten a job at canary wharf

but 10 or so days ago i was peeking in on him looking at a picture of my mom and quietly crying so me being at bit of a softy ( but i mean cmon im a teenage girl my emotions are soaring arnt they so i burst open the door and ran to him and hugged him and we had a little cry together

But since january my dad and i have been well not so close i mean because i dont have a mom to ask girly questions you know PMS, dating, the way you look, you know those kind of questions it sort of puts my dad on the spot when ever i do and he just stalls and escapes it as quick as possible like not in a mean way but im sure everyone knows what i mean

So the date is february 7th i believe and if there is anybody who can offer advice to get closer with my dad and advice on how to deal with the divorce it'd be greatly appreciated

thank you tons for any responses

Cheers