False Accusations

How much money does she owe you?

Between 150k and 280k.

I see. Is there a warrant out for you or are you prohibited from visiting?

I'd suggest that you claim your belongings and dogs and then file proceedings separately for the money, assuming that you have legal documents to support that you, indeed, loaned her money.

I would call the police to meet you at her house to get your things, so there is no trouble there. Don't try to do it without the police there.

You are going to have to talk to the circuit clerk, state attorney about filing a judgment against her for the balance owed.

If you have any joint debt, you want to call them creditors and close out them accounts. If there is a balance remaining you will want to keep up payments so you don't default on them. Pay them off and close them out.

Same thing with checking and savings accounts.

Good luck with this matter.

If there are protective orders etc., I am not aware it. Bank accounts have been closed by her. No other joint accounts exist. She had money when I met her but her life was a shamble. All I have for documentation is a handwritten, dated and signed letter to her attorney (for a will) describing the debts to me and how much I helped her. I don't think she knows I still have it. Since I met her I did not need or want to accept payment at the time and appear to be using her as we were living together and it would cost her approx. 50% additionally to pay me from her investments. Amoung other things, I am also a professional dog trainer and decided to start a dog training/breeding business which required her paying me some of the money she owed me, Feb 07. I tried to help her with her taxes by allowing her to use the start-up expenses for deductions of the business. Therefore, now she is claiming ownership of my business. She never even had a dog registered in her name until about 3-4 months ago. This is someone that is fully aware of the sacrifices and work I done and is definitely seeking to discredit, spread false accusations and destroy me because she knows my heart and cannot accept me wanting to leave. She has gone on the offensive with the bi-polar card and it seems to be effective so far. I believe I could go get my dogs with the police but would it would be almost impossible without her releasing my kennels with them.

Can't you just buy other kennels?

Listen---make a break totally. If she doesn't have a restraining order on you, maybe pro-actively seek one to put on her. And check out the legality of the will. It sounds like it might be your one document of proof.

First I want to thank you for taking the time to respond to my situation. Things are not looking good and it was helpful just to have some input. I'm not sure yet, but it appears as though as a result of coming to place of being suicidal when I realized she was she was going to steal everything and betray me has clouded any help with legal assistance. While no one will say, I'm guessing they suspect I must have threatened her and may be afraid to take the case. Her plan seems to be working well. I just don't understand. If in fact they don't believe me, I still don't understand how this can affect the fact that she owes me this money and my property. I could really use a break. She appears to have been planning this for some time. I thought she was a good person that I could trust and that needed help. I've been foolish.

Well, it does sound like the situation is fresh and new. Giving it time will help. As will looking at the situation as neutrally as possible, and identifying what is in your power to do. I'd suggest that you put the past behind you, and now seek other legal counsel. Do you have any references for a good lawyer?

does she have any proof of her accusations? if not... please don't sit back and do nothing. trust me, she's not stopping. did you see any of this coming? puzzld