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Q: extremely confused

asked by: Caruana on October 31st, 2009

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Hi so im 24 and ive been confused about my sexuality since i was 19 and it just really really gets to me sometimes and makes me feel so alone, i feel like im never gonna be able to be in a relationship with someone that goes further than friends.

Basically im attracted to both men and women. But its not that simple. I have liked guys for their personality and can fall for them i get on with guys a hell of a lot more than women but i could never have sex with a guy i just find the thought of it repulsive, not turned on by it at all. But then a woman i am sexually attracted to and would have a sex with a woman but i never fall for women like i do for men....

its really frustrating and the thing i hate the most is when i start to like a guy i cant do anything about it. i feel like im leading them on but what am i supposed to do its really hard..

i thought i was straight then bi then gay then bi but now im just nothing
does anyone else feel like this??

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W0LF

replied on November 1st, 2009

Extremely eHealthy (online)

If you ignore sexual intimacy, how do your relationships with men and women vary? Do you engage in different activities with them? Do you have different physical boundaries with them? Are there different levels of honesty/secrecy/trust you have with men and women? If you have a decision between spending the night with a man or a woman what affects that decision.

Caruana

replied on November 5th, 2009

New User

emm..not really.i don't really have alot of friends that are girls.i mostly only hang out with guys. i feel i do tell girls more personal stuff...but i don't know if its just cause thats girly stuff. i would say i trust guys more tho.spending the night? do you mean just hanging out? i feel more comfortable hanging out with guys so i would probably pick the guy.

W0LF

replied on November 5th, 2009

Extremely eHealthy (online)

I don't think there's anything bizzare about your situation. Sounds like you're attracted to women but that you're not sure if you can trust them enough to be more than friends. You like men but you're not attracted to them. It's very possible that you prefer women and just need to allow yourself the opportunity. It's possible you're attracted to men but that you're still dealing with girlish squeamishness about sex with them. I think once you become more intimate with others it will be obvious to you what your preference is, you'll just feel right or wrong about it. I'd encourage you to try to be intimate with either gender and see if one of the other feels more right to you.

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J3nnyuk

replied on November 5th, 2009

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extremely good advice wolf! Jenny

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