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StacyHoll Experienced User
April 20th, 2008
Well, after four years of being together and from being together for the first 3 months of our pregnancy. He always 'acted' as if he was happy when we were together. He told me he wanted to break up with me because his parents hate me.

AT first he was so excited. He went everywhere and told everyone. He was smiling and cheerful... He went to all of the doctors appointments for the first three months.

He went to live with his parents. I just don't get it he was so happy. Now today he said he's not happy about it at all. He does have depression- I just never know.. He's also going to a treatment center.. He will be there when I go into labour. I am so scared.. I always thought he was my best friend and if everything in life goes wrong well atleast I still have him. Ya know. He's a totally different person.

He treats me differently. I just am trying to be happy about this baby and him and his family have turned against me. His mom says its 'horrible' timing- Why didn't you use a condom. His brother says he doesn't care. His sister in law says its unfortunite.

Why is everyone turning away from this little life. Why are they all rejecting this baby in me. It just makes me so sad because.. I know he would be a good dad.

Since hes left me he doesn't want to know ANYTHING about the baby. He doesn't want updates he doesn't ask how I am feeling. He doesn't call.

He said he wants to meet him/her. Is it right to abandon me and make my pregnancy a stressful hell Then when the baby comes its all rainbows and butterflys.

I love him so much.. I just dont know what to do. HE oviously hates me because I am pregnant.
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butterflykisses1234
replied April 20th, 2008
It's his problem not yours. You need to focus on having a healthy pg and not about what is going on with him. I have a friend whose husband left her after she had recurrent miscarriages. Now she has no man and no baby. At least you have your kid. That's what's important.
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StacyHoll
replied April 21st, 2008
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How far along was she when she lost her baby?

Sometimes its hard just to put it all behind me. Easier said then done! Thats forsure. I definitly am focusing on all of the positives. Smile
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butterflykisses1234
replied April 21st, 2008
She had multiple miscarriages...5 all together. The worst part is that he forced her to get an abortion the first time she got pg. Then when HE was ready to have kids, she kep miscarrying. He was an unsupportive jerk through the whole thing. Then he left her because she wasn't able to have kids and now she is alone with no kids and feeling guilty bc she killed the one kid she could have had. All bc she fell in love with a selfish !**@!. I KNOW its hard, I just don't want you to stress and end up losing the baby. You nee to think about yourself and be GOOD to yourself right now. Stay positive and if you have supportive family or friends then lean on them. GL
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StacyHoll
replied April 22nd, 2008
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I am pretty far along. The doctors did say that stress wasn't good, but it wouldn't cause a miscarriage at this point. I am just about 20 weeks along. I know what you mean though. Earlier on he left me thats when I was worried. I guess I needed someone to talk to rather than internalizing
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mommyglamour
replied May 5th, 2008
these forums seem like a great place to vent and get advice and you always find someone you can relate to. i can see how you are so confused. it's like he did a 180 on you.
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