my problem is that since i 15 years old i begin masturbating excissevely from 3 to 5 and more times daily first i had a very strong erection and sex drive but with time it begin to show some problemes like semen leak,testiculaire pain,etc..
now i'm 26 and i'm healthy with no problemes like diabete or what so ever, but the main one is that i have no erection when i try to have sex with my girlfriend but in the same time i can get erected when i masturbate but only when i touch it with my hand.she told to stop masturbation witch i did for a month ,and felt some improvement in my spontanious erection.
that's why i'm seeking advice on this,if i should continue to stop mastubating?and for how long?does watching porn count?finally can i get a full recovery?
AND THANK YOU VERY VERY MUCH FOR ANY ANSWER.
It has been shown by research that masturbation in itself does not cause any adverse effects on you sexual life. But in most cases, it is the guilt attached to masturbation that is responsible for increased problems in sexual relationships with the opposite sex, psychological disturbances and lower level of the male sex hormones. This happens due to certain chemical changes in brain areas that are common to the emotional health and sexual health.
With increasing age, the strength or erection also reduces. It is estimated that the strength in a 28 year old person is about 1/4th of the strength he had at the age of 18 years. And, there are no studies that show masturbation to be responsible for reduction in strength.
When you start a relationship, there are chances you carrying the guilt of masturbation into the relationship. That's the reason you are not able to have a fulfilling sexual relationship.
Hence, stopping masturbation altogether is not the solution. Once again, I will quote research has shown that masturbation does not affect your sexual performance. What you can do is reduce the guilt attached to masturbation, if any. You might want to reduce the frequency of masturbation. Discipline yourself with a chart where you note the weekly frequency and try to reduce it gradually to a level you are comfortable with.
Another important issue is that of watching porn. Usually, once you start watching porn, the threshold of getting sexually excited shift upwards. It means you start becoming more and more dependent on visual cues for getting aroused sexually. It has been observed that with time, more and more body exposure is needed for the same level of arousal. In your real life situation, you won't get such cues always. In addition, a healthy sexual relationship with your partner demands that you are aware of the other modes of arousal as well as only the visual (for example, touch, smell, communication, etc.).
What you can try is discipline yourself in reducing the frequency of masturbation, reduce or eliminate the guilt attached to it and reduce erotica as far as possible. It doesn't mean you have to stop them altogether right now. You will have to do it gradually, over a few months.
Yes, you can fully come out of this situation, only if you are willing to devote time and be patient.
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