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May 19th, 2011
Hello,

Has anyone had an ex boyfriend return after abandoning the relationship during pregnancy? My ex boyfriend was horrible to me during my pregnancy. After my son was born, he fell in love with my son. However, my ex remained angry and hostile towards me.

Many of our issues are manifestations from past trauma but remain unresolved. My ex's father cares for both me and my son but communication is poor and don't feel he is reliable. I cannot forget the past hostility he showed me.

I have relocated out of the area to go back to school. Now that we are gone, my ex wants to get back together. He says that he still loves me. I believe he does but that doesn't do anything for our previous issues. Now that we have left, he realizes that he can't come in and out depending on the temperature of our relationship.

Has anyone had an ex come back and been able to work things out? I am still trying to navigate what is best for all here... I don't think it will ever work out but still care for him in the same manner as someone who would care for an abused dog that bit them....

Thanks for any feedback!!
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timeisshort
replied May 22nd, 2011
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Why is he wanting to come back?
is it just for the physical atributes & what he can get.
What are your ages?
Does a religious attitude take any part in your relationship? (just so i don't offend)
Why was he angry & hostile towards you? If He is annoyed because you fell pregnant then he needs to remember his responsibilities.

Relationships fail for many reasons. There are five things that will virtually gaurantee a relationship, they are: Conversion togeather,(religious)
Commitment
Compassion
Compromise
& most of all Communication
If there is a break down in any of these it will reduce the success rate each by 20% although communication should account for a double helping.
If you are serious about your relationship search for Mark Gungor's "laugh your way to a better marriage" so long as both of you are prepared to commit then it would be a good place to start. My wife & i broke up 15months ago & it was only these 5 principles that allowed us to sort through our stipidity & selfishness & now we are more in love than we were ever before.
You have responsibilities towards your son & so does your ex.You both need to put your son's needs first!
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