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Ex wants 50/50 custody

I fell pregnant to a brief fling. My baby is 5 weeks. I was in 2 minds of telling the dad who is not on birth cert. but silly me told him, but he started being controlling so i backtracked and said i am not sure if its yrs or my exes.
I dont want him involved. he also told me he is seeing different women etc, but wants 50/50 custody
I dont want this for my son. I should have went with my gut instinct and not told him.

Now i feel i should move interstate or run with my child.
I cant sleep, eat etc... feel so ill
i told him my ex did a paternity test and i will know results next week, because i dont want him around. he is a control freak. i hadnt seen him in a year and wanted to do the right thing, but the right thing is for me to bring up my own child with loving support he gets from my family.

How stupid was i to think he may have changed?

what do i do, ? my ex is not having a test and i need to get this person out of my life.
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what if he wants a paternity test?
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replied April 25th, 2010
He has a legal right to have a relationship with his child. If he gets legal visitation rights that doesnt mean you have to be around him. you have to tell the judge this. If you don't get an attorney to handle your end you havent seen problems yet. If he pushes it then it will be a legal issue. Keep in mind if you blatantly dis-regard what a court orders you risk jail . Find a attorney and find one quick. some [ especially female] will take the case for free if you cant afford it. A child needs the love and support of a mother and father and you should put the best interest of your child above you personal wishes.
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