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Q: ex boyfriend

asked by: Chrissy_Lynn87 on June 30th, 2009

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Me and my ex boyfriend broke up about 3 weeks ago because we have alot were going threw and working on plus his brother just got out of jail after like 6 years so we are just kind of working on ourselves and our life.

Well one thing about me is I'm extremely shy and I sometimes do not think before I speak and am very insecure about myself plus his family is pretty normal and mine our like the flipping osbournes so I feel weird.. One time I talked to his mom and made a joke about my ex needing a kid because the way he acts with his dog and later on he said it was not smart to say which made me more shy and nervous about talking

Well last night I spent the night and this morning when left to take me home he lectured me about not talking and this is the second time he has done it and made me feel like crap. He keeps saying I need to talk to his mom which I have but very few times but you see she is rarely there and when she is she is doing school work or this annoying girl jenn is there with her kids and she's up my ex boyfriends moms but the whole time so I can't talk to her

I just called him and he said he was to angry to speak to me and when I said he upset me in the car he said I have no reason to be he is the one that has the reason to be upset and that seems like how it always is , I'm not allowed to be upset... He wants me to understand how he feels about things but he does not want to understand mine

Heck while we were together he compared me to his ex gf"s several times which really hurt then the night before I asked if I could stay with him for 2 weeks because my family is going away and he said with his brother just getting out of jail he would be worried we would do something. I was literally in shock and so hurt he said that and when I said how I felt he just said well you have to understand I had girls cheat on me. I think he has let his ex gfs get to him and now he has trust issue but ya know what I had guys chest on me so should I be looking over my shoulder everytime i date a guy? No... Just because someone did you wrong does not mean you should me suspicious of everyone you date. He also said friends don't spend two weeks together oh but we are going to freaking Carolina for a week right after those 2 weeks I asked about, we are going with his whole family. I seriously felt like saying you sure you want me to go to Carolina with you because friends don't spend a week together and I wouldn't want you worrying that I may sleep with your brother

I am just at a breaking point where I'm about to blow and if he walks out of my life oh well. I love him, I never wanted to get married or have more kids and he changed that and many other things and I want to be with him the rest of my life but now it is getting to the point where I just want to say to heck with it and walk away

Replies(7)

wendyrs

replied on June 30th, 2009

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Wow! I think your last sentence is the one you should stand by...walk away. You referred to him as your ex-boyfriend and I think you should make him your ex-boyfriend. Don't keep putting yourself out there for him to hurt you. He sounds like he is the one with the problems, not you. He also sounds like he has some really bad trust issues. He's playing you like a toy. You will never be able to win with this guy. He wants you to talk to his mother and then when you do he gets angry at you for talking. I wouldn't go to the Carolinas with his family or anywhere. He will make you miserable. Don't go; walk away! In fact; put your sneakers on and run away from him. He doesn't deserve you.

kdlee

replied on June 30th, 2009

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I agree with wendy..Whew..He sure likes to tell you what to do and think..Not worth it..You have a mind..Being shy don't mean dumb..I know this because I use to be very shy, people wanted to control me and tell me what to do ,think and say..I took it and felt as about as low as you can get..I even got to where I didn't want to be in groups cause heck-what would I have to say..YOU KNOW WHAT-we're smart people so you talk when you wanna and chill out when you don't.

ServiceU

replied on June 30th, 2009

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my exboyfriend and i didnt get along, but i stayed with him out of love for 4.5 years.
it's hard being with someone you love, but you dont get along with, or someone that dont understand you.
when your with someone like that, they dont bring the best out in you, they bring out the worse.
you should walk away! you can find someone else who is going to be your best friend, who will trust you, and love you and want to be with you.
someone who understands you, and agree with the things that you do, not argue at you for everything.

Chrissy_Lynn87

replied on July 2nd, 2009

New User

thanks for the input. I really think it is best not to get back with him and remain friends but I think I'm going to distance myself for a while from him

When I braught up last night about him telling his brother about my son being in jail and how he had no right to say anything and it was embarasing he said "what's more embarrassing, u upsetting my brother for not saying bye or your sons father". I freaking flipped how can you even compare the two?

He also told his brother about my ibs syndrome which I'm embarrassed of and now I find myself wondering If he told his brother about me having hpv

I bet he would not like it if I went around telling everyone he can't not have kids and he is 20,000 in debt. I bet he would be angry and embarrassed

wendyrs

replied on July 2nd, 2009

Supporter

I think you made a good decision to stay away from him. Stay strong and we're here if you need to talk.

Chrissy_Lynn87

replied on July 3rd, 2009

New User

Thanks. Ya know I actually met him on a date site and he was wanting to settle down and get married which was what I was looking to do but about a month ago he just totally changed and now he wants to go out and drink and have fun I am thinking the change is due to his brother getting out of jail and he even gave that as one of the reasons for us breaking up but what happens when his brother gets a gf? He has already slept with his ex fiancé twice.

I told my friend the other night watch when his bro gets a gf he will want to date again and I'm going to tell him no.

ServiceU

replied on July 3rd, 2009

Supporter

when i was with my monster ex of five years. all of his friends was single, and wanted to go to the shacky butts club. so my young minded, easily influenced b/f at the time act like he was confused b/c his friends glamourized the single life.

when i broke up with him, his very friends was in relationships. and my ex couldn't convinced them to go to the nude bar.

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