Hi, I've been dating a 40 year old uncircumcised guy for the past 5 months. I noticed the first time we had sex that during foreplay he did not have an erection until I performed oral on him. We have sex about twice a week and everytime we have morning sex he is unable to keep his erection during penetration. I have to resort to masturbation and oral and then we will try penetration again. I avoided asking him the obvious question because I didn't want to make him even more uncomfortable. But this weekend I finally asked him what was wrong?... he said that because I was so wet he would lose friction. What does that mean?? I thought all guys liked it when a woman was wet... He is only the second guy I've slept with so I am full of questions... Is it erectile dysfunction? when we have sex at night its great no issues there. I thought men love morning sex cause they wake up with an erection? The most important question is it me? I would love some feed back from you guys.
It is possible that, your partner might have had performance anxiety, during the initial few times, of your sexual life.
In case, your partner, is able to have early morning erections, then it would be a indicator that he is completely normal and his erection issues could be psychological.
In case, there is lack of early morning erections, it would probably be due to low testosterone levels, or due to some form of penile injury.
But, since you have mentioned, that night time sex, is completely fine, it would seem that the issue could be that he could be a night person (and not comfortable with early morning sex or other factors).
Good sex , need a prepared and relaxed brain. When in stress or when self doubt takes over, the confidence and hence the performance drops.
It is possible, that his erection may subside, when there is excess lubrication too. Though lubrication is good, as it reduces the discomfort, excess of it may reduce the feeling of fullness.
In such cases, a bit of open talk, sexual stimulation (masturbation, oral sex) and change of sexual positions and change of location will also help to improve your sex life.
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