I have had erectile dysfunction apparently all of my life. It wasn't until I was about 19 till I started realizing that I wasn't normal. When I can get an erection it is never a full erection. The problem is that it is rare that I can even get an erection. Of course stress increases the problem.
When my wife wants to have sex on a regular bases I feel bad because I feel as though I am inept and can not please her. I also feel as though I am missing out on having sex with her. When her libido lowers and she doesn't want to have sex I feel bad as well because I feel as if I am to blame for the problem (which I am).
I have not tried a penis pump but I have tried using a ring and it causes the tip of my penis to feel as if it is falling asleep and changes the sensation to be not so pleasurable.
Most times when I can get an erection and I am in the middle of sex I start to lose my erection after about 10 minutes of activity causing me to eventually not be able to continue having sex because I will start to bend and hurt myself.
Due to my ED I have either one of two longevity time frames, either I come to an orgasm too quickly or I can not orgasm at all.
I have tried both lavitra and viagra and both of them depress me rather quickly after taking the pill. I can sometimes have spontaneous sex with my wife when I take the pill but as soon as I start to get depresses she worries about me and no longer will be in the mood. Lavitra is supposed to be usable as a mood enhancer so apparently I have a problematic reverse effect.
Even if I do get a penis pump I will still have to use a ring in order to keep the blood in the penis. And then comes the ring problem I described earlier.
I'm in a downward spiral here, no matter what I do I find myself furious at myself for having this problem. I am only 24 and should not be having these issues.
I know that this is most likely a psychological issue but I'm curious if anyone knows of anything I can do to help the situation until I can afford to pay for therapy?
Thank you for any help you might have,
-TrimTom
