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Ending a realtionship when there is a baby invloved

To make a long story short, I have been in this relationship for 3 years now, and recently had a baby two months ago. I am very unhappy and want to leave but not sure how to do so, and if I should considering my baby girl. He has porn addition, and lies about watching it,right to my face and would rather watch porn then come to bed with me, and the odd case if he does come to bed with me, the sex has gotten for abusive of. When i confront him on watching porn his response is..well would you rather me cheat? ...ugh ... Secondly, he also has a gambling problem and has spend hundreds of dollars on playing on line poker and can afford to things that we need, so i am left picking up the bill for everything and the stress is starting to take its toll. He recently stopped playing poker for real money and now spends his time playing free games in hopes of winning money. He does not have a good paying job, and wont look for one that can support his family, he would rather just stay with his low paying job. Im tired of feeling like he is just hanging around for a free ride.
He calls me names and says very hurtful things to me when he is angry. I want to leave but he threatens to hurt him self. I do not loving him anymore, but I care about him enough that I don't want to leave because I am worried about what he will do.
Please help with any advice you can give, I don't want my daughter to grow up and think that this is how a relationship is, and i dont want to spend anymore time wasting my life, giving him chance after chance to change only for it to blow up in my face.

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replied November 24th, 2011
Hey hun...you know, i'm in the same boat as you and I have a five month old...its tough for me cause my boyfriend is 47, im half his age...im 24, we have been together for almost four years and he always called me down but i never really paid attention to it till one night he said somethjing that broke my heart...I dont love him the same as i did 3 yrs ago, his mother thinks its healthy to fight but shes just messed up all the way...I am actually left thinking because i had htis baby with him i have to live like this for the rest of my life till death do us part, i dont know how to leave him as he is the controling one and im actually scared of his reactions if i ask for help on something....not good
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replied January 5th, 2012
Youngmomma3 wrote:
Hey hun...you know, i'm in the same boat as you and I have a five month old...its tough for me cause my boyfriend is 47, im half his age...im 24, we have been together for almost four years and he always called me down but i never really paid attention to it till one night he said somethjing that broke my heart...I dont love him the same as i did 3 yrs ago, his mother thinks its healthy to fight but shes just messed up all the way...I am actually left thinking because i had htis baby with him i have to live like this for the rest of my life till deaeth do us part, i dont know how to leave him as he is the controling one and im actually scared of his reactions if i ask for help on something....not good


i know all to well how you feel, my h2b told me half way through panning our wedding that i forced him into marriage, after having 3 wedding dates already previously cancelled i just dont love him anymore.

Both of you have similar issues, and walking out is deffinatley the right thing to do, youngmumma3 you have been hurt badly, and topic poster, you have a man that is taking advantage of you, as well as doing thing to upset you an hurting you, breaking up a family is hard, i am struggling to do it myself but i wish you both the strength to move on up and out and find a real man, when you have both been able to find out yourselves again,

best of luck guys
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