im 18 and i've been going out with my gf for 1 year now and i love her more than anything. a couple days ago she gave me a hand job for the first time, at first it was great and i didnt have any probems at all. but after 15 minutes or so i started gradually losing the erection and by about 30 min it was totally soft. but it was in a cold car and we were tired so we used that excuse. a couple days later we tried again in her bed and the same thing happened. it was so embarrasing!!! BUT, i did have a cold fever and a headache the day before the first time and i felt better until just after we gave up doing the first handjob
i find her very attractive and i have no problem getting an erection with her, its just when she starts stroking it i eventually lose the erection over time and i feel very sick a few minutes after we give up
i have no problem masturbating by myself and i dont feel sick at all afterwards, and i dont think shes doing anything wrong
please help me!!!!
Hi there. Thanks for posting on Ehealthforum. I do not think that there is anything terrible amiss here. It just might be that hand jobs alone, as your girlfriend administers them, are not your thing and are insufficient to make you ejaculate. They might also be causing you a little performance anxiety and that is why you are loosing your erections. Don't worry. This is normal. Talk it over with your girlfriend. Hold her hand while she does it and, if she agrees, mix in a little mutual masturbation as well. You'll be fine.
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