I''m a 30 year old male. I started having ED issues around 26/27, my partner then and I consulted a doctor and was prescribed Cialis which worked. I then broke up with that girl, who would stress me out and I thought the ED was phsycological as I wasn''t attratced to her and started dating another girl, who is amazing in every way. I started out the new relationship off with using Cialis. I stopped after awhile as I found sometimes I didn''t need it (it would work 8 out of 10 times) and would use L-Arginine, worked out regulary and eat some what healthy. Lately I find (its only working like 3 out of 10 times lately) when we''re being intimate I immidiatley get aroused but lose it after a few minutes while trying to get her worked up and then can''t get my erection back.
I would prefer not to take cialis/viagara as they give me headaches, so are there any healthy altrnatives? Should I see a Urologist?
Hi there, thank you for posting your question on Ehealthforum. This is not intended as a substitute to visiting your own doctor.
Don't bother seeing a urologist just yet. Your subconscious "habit" of looking at yourself trying to get an erection has spilt over from your last relationship to your new one. You have a degree of erectile dysfunction brought on by Performance Anxiety or watching yourself trying to get an erection. You have three choices now. You can do any one or all of them.
(1) Do nothing and wait for it to right itself. Remember, most erectile dysfunction goes away of its own accord eventually.
(2) Go to a doctor and stay on something like Cialis 20mg. This "works" but understandably you do not want to stay on it indefinitely.
(3) Go to a Sex Councillor and learn how to get round Performance Anxiety through behavioural techniques. These typically involve stop/start erection management and eventually having intercourse with the lady on top doing all the work while you just lie there doing nothing. If you are not expected to perform then you cannot have any performance anxiety. A sense of humour too of course always helps. Talk to your girlfriend, give her a challenge.
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