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Q: Early termination pregnancy

asked by: mahen194 on March 14th, 2008

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Hi all,

I had sex with my wife on 10th day of cycle(cycle started on 11th feb and 10th day of the cycle was 20th feb),unfortunately condom was torn.
She was supposed to have the cycle started on 11th March(may be 1 or 2 days before or after,normally her cycle is regular and it is 28 days).
She did not bleed on 11th march which was supposed to be her first day of the cycle. the main problem is between 10th day and 14th day when the most fertile day comes for the woman, difference is only for 4 days and What I know that sperm stays for 5 days in vagina and if ovulution occurs that it can be a pregnancy.

Now it has been almost 25 days(20th feb since the time we had sex and condom was torn and untill 14th march).

We do not want child now. Could you guide us whether is it too late(it is been almost 4 weeks(25 days) to terminate the early pregnancy if it is?
I know start of cycle varies for each woman and she may be late for some days also but I am thinking if somehow she is pregnant then what are the ways, is medical treatment by abortion pills option is good, I mean taking 2 mifepristone and misoprostol under doctor supervision is a good option or not? I am from India and I donot what are the options to terminate the early pregnancy, do any one of you have any idea about relaiable methods to terminate pregnancy in India.

What do you think it has been 25 days since the time we had sex on 10th day and she wa supposed to have cycle started but she did not bleed on 11th march on which she was supposed to have her first day, should we wait for some more time(and if yes then how long should we wait) so that her cycle starts and then go for the pregnancy blood or urinte test.

could any one of you let me now from your experience that is medical treatment by abortion pills harmfull for woman health or is there any other complicacy or most important does it impact future pregnancy at all?

I am impatiently waiting for your reply kindly give me some detailed answer.

Thanks,
Mahen

Replies(11)

PenguinsRus

replied on March 14th, 2008

Moderator

It is too late to prevent pregnancy, but not too late to terminate it if she is in fact pregnant. She can go get an abortion.

However, if its been 25 days since you had sex and she is late for her period, she could now take a test and it would be accurate. She should buy a pregnancy test and make sure to take it with her first morning urine, because that has the most concentrated pregnancy hormone in it.

If she is pregnant and you want to abort the baby, you should go to her obgyn and she will guide you on the process. However, first I would make sure to talk to your wife and make sure that abortion is definitely what she wants too. It is a decision you must make together.

If there is a mistake like this again, there is a pill you can buy over the counter called Plan B. If you take it within 72 hours of the unprotected sex (the earlier the better), it will help prevent pregnancy as another method of birth control.

mahen194

replied on March 14th, 2008

New User

Thanks

Thanks for your kind answer, I still would like to understand about the complications that may arise due to abortion with the pills, I mean mifepristone and misoprostol.
From your experience can you tell is there any future pregnancy complication because of using these tables that may arise.
Is this method really good for early pregnancy temination, from the start of first date of her last cycle it has been about 32 days until today. So if we go for abortion assuming that she is pregnant is this time Ok.

Thanks,
Mahen

PenguinsRus

replied on March 14th, 2008

Moderator

Yes, abortion using the pill can be used up to 8 weeks of pregnancy. After 8 weeks, a medical abortion would be used. Abortion via the pill is better when its done earlier because the embryo is smaller and less bleeding should occur the earlier its done. She would probably experience a bit of pain and a lot of cramping, but its 95-97% effective in aborting the baby. It essentially causes a miscarriage. She could take the pills in the privacy of your own home which is nice.

It shouldn't have any effect on her future ability to get pregnant.

However, I would not even be worrying about all of this yet. You should first get a test to see if she even is pregnant! It takes the average couple a year of trying to conceive

mahen194

replied on March 14th, 2008

New User

Thanks

It is so nice of you to share knowledge with me as now a days I am very depressed just because of this reason that she is having cycle coming as she is supposed to have.

You are right that it takes for most of the couples to get one more into their life but problem with me is that condom just broke exactly on the day when it is supposed to be risky, it was 10th day of her cycle and condom broke and what I know is that semen stays for about 3 days or 4 or 5 and ovulution period also comes somewhere around 14th day this is the reason I am most worried as ther is a difference of just 4 days when I had sex and when she would have ovuluted, and after that she is supposed to have cycle coming which has already been 3 days late as per todays date.

What do you say about this?

Thanks,
Mahen

PenguinsRus

replied on March 14th, 2008

Moderator

You are right that it is technically one of the riskier days, but I still would not worry until she takes a pregnancy test. Late periods can be due to many things such as stress. Has she been stressed out lately?

Buy a test today (dollar store tests are just as reliable and accurate as name brand tests if you are worried about the cost of it), and have her take it first thing tomorrow morning. That way it will ease your mind and you will know one way or another. Try your best not to get TOO worried and worked up until you know for sure.

Even if she does wind up pregnant, its not the end of the world. There are steps that can be taken to end the pregnancy if abortion is what you both decide is best. It is very scary, but you and your wife will make it through this together. You will also be better informed for next time. I would even recommend buying a box of Plan B now and keeping it in your medicine cabinet just incase if this ever happens again so you can be protected right after by taking the pill.

mahen194

replied on March 14th, 2008

New User

Thanks

You are right next time I will sure keep pill so that I can always take if something wrong happens, yes she is with me infact we both are happy to go for this. Moreover i think since it is not been quite long just about 1 month over and I think inside it is nothing so though always abortion kind of word strikes the mind but I would not take it in that way though if she comes out to be conceived but these are very early days and almost it is just the starting but it takes some more time to actually become something inside womb.

As we both are happy not to have baby now and it is a mutual understanding so there seems to be no problem but I was just wondering that people who go for this early pregnancy through pill really do not suffer in future pregnancy and health of the woman also remains good, i mean taking these pills really should not create any problem from health point of veiw, Am i right ?

Thanks,
Mahen

mahen194

replied on March 14th, 2008

New User

Thanks

Hi Sarah,

How can I share my happiness now, just after writing my last reply to you I got news from my wife that she just got the date, isnt this great...vow...........I am really so happy....I was so worried about the pregnancy of my wife and we really did not want any child(you see now i am using I did not but earlier I was writing like we do not, It means that now pregnancy is a matter of past).

I am in germany now and she is back in india (new delhi) alone with my family members and I could not have told this thing to my family that we did not want the child otherwise they would have not felt happy with our decesion, but now no one has to be worried about anything...I was unnecessarliy thinking a lot but sometime you have to think if you do not want the things go wrong.

I am sharing this since with you as I am so happy now, and thanks for you to share your feelings and knowledge...

Today is a grt day for me..................

Thanks,
Mahen

Carifairy

replied on March 14th, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

MAHEN- Abortion does not affect future pregnancy. 1 or 10.

I have had 3 abortions, but I do not like abortion by pill, so I had surgical. Much faster and less painful.

PenguinsRus

replied on March 14th, 2008

Moderator

Congratulations, Mahen. I am very excited for you that you and your wife got the answer you were looking for!

Just for reference, Cari is right. Abortion will not affect future pregnancies, and if one day she ever does have to have an abortion you two will still be able to have children in the future.

Congratulations again, and definitely if you can get some Plan B for the medicine cabinet just incase if it happens again someday so you won't have to worry like this next time! Smile

mahen194

replied on March 17th, 2008

New User

Thanks

Hi Sarah,

I have just come into office, and since Friday I am on the top of the world, I got what I wanted.

Moral of the story is: Even you still have sex with condom but condom wants you to be father you can still go for another friend called Ipill. So from next time I will have Ipill in my drawer.

Thanks,
Mahen

Tylanas

replied on March 17th, 2008

Especially eHealthy

I just moved this over to the correct forum.

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