Who knows how much of her BPD is related to the failing relationship or the drinking. 17 years is a long time to be with someone when neither of you knew of the illness. What has the 17 years been like, looking back with the added knowledge that she is bi-polar? Certainly being an alcoholic doesn't help matters. I'm alarmed at the clonopan and drinking though. Clonopan doesn't sound like the right anti-anxiety drug for a bi-polar anyway, I know many who became more aggressive with clonopan.

I think the only thing you can do is try to recognize that being diagnosed only 2 weeks ago could be having a negative effect on your wife, and she is acting out more because of it. She may also be acting out in ways you are not aware of...yet.

If she is unhappy with her life then maybe some talk therapy might be in order. If on the other hand, she's unhappy and has been unhappy in the marriage, then you need to let things play out. Let her leave if that is what she wants, otherwise she'll resent you for trying to keep her somewhere where she is unhappy.

If you haven't already, read up on BPD, might come in handy.

She is seeing a pshyciatrist who diagnosed her as being bipolar and prescribed lamitcal. Her primary prescribed clonipan. Marriage was not great but not terrible. She says she is depressed and needs to sort things out. She told the therapist she does not want a divorce just to be alone for awhile.I am not trying to make her stay. We were waiting until after Christmas to tell the kids. However the drinking has been going on for our whole marriage which has caused resentment since I am driving the kids all over, making dinner, homework etc. I want her to leave so I can get on with my life. If she wants to return and stops drinking or cuts down we will see. Otherwise nothing will change for me as I am tired of dealing with it. I read Bipolar and drinking usually go hand in hand but don not know how much of the drinking is related to being bipolar.

klonopin and drinking is a bad mixture it can be fatal so make sure you look out for her health and if you have to have her admitted before it's to late.

benzo's and booze dont mix well its dangerous