hello and welcome...okay firstly you need to relax and you being tense and expecting intercourse to hurt will happen..
I understand your concerns and i advise you to see your gynecologist for a check up as bleeding during or trying to penetrate intercourse is not right..
now i hope you have an understanding partner who would prefer you to satisfy his needs others ways until you are checked out...
once you get your own health problem sorted out then the rest should fall into place..
watch for other replys and hope all goes well for you. leaving this problem will only make matters worse..
good luck.