Recently I'm back to work in the society after gave birth to a baby gal and I realised that I'm having a very serious problems with my look. I get stares by ppl surrounding me which makes me feels inferior, moody, frighten, no confident and low self-esteem.
To tell the truth, I've always having a problems with my high cheekbones, and i feel ugly and less attractive. Now as age goes by, my cheekbones are getting more prominent than before. Getting those stares from ppl, I get frustrated easily and only wish to go home immediately after work.
Having difficulties to concentrate with my work, I'll have to take care of my 6 mth old baby, doing house-choirs, cook dinner, etc.. I feel like ending my life and get rid of all these troubles.
To my knowledge in America anyway, high cheekbones are considered extremely attractive! It's possible people stare at you because you are BEAUTIFUL, not ugly!! You should smile, pull back your hair, and let your lovely face show!! I bet you're gorgeous!
Darlin', you can't be THAT old if you're giving birth so relax!! You're young and pretty!
You mentioned you just gave birth. Well...after i gave birth i did not feel attractive. There is nothing wrong with the way i look it's just that i felt dowdy and frumpy. Coming home after a day at work, cooking and what not, then you have the task of probably getting up and down with baby. You probably can not find time to just sit in a nice hot tub of bubbles to relax. You need to take time for you. And when people look at you, smile at them. Depending on where you live, the winter months can sometimes depress us. Spring is here and soon you will be able to get the sun on your face. Have hubby chip in a little (or mate) he helped bring baby into this world too. If you are alone, check into a local babysitting service. The Red Cross can help you with that. They offer info on it. Ask gramma to sit for a few hours,take a walk or window shop, but yourself something pretty. Or drop baby off and go back home. Sit in the tub with a book and some wine or coffee or whatever. Just take a few hours out of the week for yourself. It will help. You do not sound un attractive at all. Your a mom, that makes you beautiful. So relax and don't talk nonsense, who will take care of that baby girl you just gave birth to.
It's normal for women after giving birth to think that she is no longer attractive hey I've been there, you're not alone so please don't ever think that you're not pretty anymore and please stop thinking of ending your life talk to someone let everything out don't bottle your feelings - no good hun.
Being a new mother, you have to do all the housework and looking after children is not any easy task I know because I have experience it myself, sometime the feeling is too overwhelming, I cried at the smallest thing such as when my first born cried the first time when I wanted to bath her and there was no one around, I felt so hopeless and angry at myself and told myself that I am useless but then as time goes by I realized what I said was actually 'hormons talking' (to me) I was so overwhelm with the new motherhood experience. So hun you've already taken the first step by coming here the next step is to share your feelings and thoughts there will be a lot of people here who are willing to listen. Good luck pm me if you need to talk - Love Hart74
Thank all of you for your piece of advice. I understand that being a mother is no easy task especially as a full-time working mum. Maybe I've been too stressful recently and am trying my best to suit in this life-style.