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Q: Don't know what to do.........
asked by: IrishPhilly215 on August 6th, 2009
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i'm 19 and my girlfriend is pregnant, thats not the problem. I'm very happy we are going to have a family, but now she left me. I messed up a lot, I went into rehab after this and got clean, I figured it was best for me, our baby, well our family. She says she can't trust me, which I understand, I want to be there for her during the pregnancy because I swore to her I wouldnt leave her. I don't know if I should leave the relationship alone and just be by her side, or if I should try and convince her to let us get back together. I am driving myself nuts, I can't go a day without crying and wishing I could go back and change the past. I love this girl with every bit of myself and I need her, but I don't think she will ever want to be with me. This won't change my position on my child, I will be in my child's life, I couldn't leave a child, my child. I just don't know what to do next. I want to make her life easier and smoother while she is pregnant. Someone please help.........
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tareda
replied on August 6th, 2009
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Whatever you did to screw things up enough for her to leave you can't be changed, give her that space and stop crying about it. Everything happens for a reason and we all have tough lessons to learn. If she doesnt trust you, well you'll have to earn that trust back, not force it on her. Dont wish to change the past, even the worst things you've done make and mold you into the person you are today. Learn from your mistakes, learn not to repeat them and be a stronger man for owning and overcoming this obstacle. My advice here is not to push things. You are both sooooo very young and there is no need to rush. Step back, give some time for your recovery to be important to you, the more you take THAT seriously the more she'll take YOU seriously. For your own sake, dont just jump right back into the relationship. At the same time, be her friend. Be there when she needs you and when she doesnt, offer to help with everything and try as much as you can to be involved in the pregnancy. However, more importantly then that, DONT get angry if she rejects your help or if she doesnt want to be around you sometimes. A woman wants her feelings to be respected more then anything and it will speak wonders for you if you bite your tongue, put your ego in check and respect the fact that she may not want to see you. In order of importance you should be focused on YOUR RECOVERY (without that you have nothing), that baby, then your relationship. good luck
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ServiceU
replied on August 10th, 2009
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prove to her you can be trusted! if you had to go to rehab, prove to her that what ever you was doing your not going to do any more. get your life together and be the man she fell in love with.
sometimes you cant just tell this to a person, she needs actions, so she needs to see by the things that you do from this day forward that you are a changed man.
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