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Q: don't feel sex

asked by: desertbloom on July 10th, 2008

New User

hi im 20 years old and i've been married about 8 months now, my husband is the only sexual partner i've ever had. i've been extrememly sexually active during my marriage, but i still dont feel anything.

at first it was kind of painful and uncomfortable but he was patient with me, and the uncomfort passed after the first 3 or 4 times, but i didnt enjoy sex,, at first i didnt think much of it, i figured my body needed time to "catch up" or something. i didnt cum at first, i do now with oral stimulation but i dont feel anything, even when i cum!! i cum alot now, i usually make a mess, but i don't feel it happening, i dont even know i came until i feel the moisture running down or a hear/see his reaction..

we've tried many (and i mean MANY) positions, and alternate between positions often, sometimes i feel him inside me, but usually i dont. it's weird like my body responds, but i dont feel it happening.. and obviously since i cant feel it, i dont enjoy it.

what's wrong with me??

Replies(10)

Sydney123456

replied on July 10th, 2008

Experienced User

Are you sure you're orgasming? I just have a hard time imagining orgasming...but not feeling it. I'm sure it feels really good...but, are you actually orgasming?

You can't feel his penis inside of you? Do you feel any friction whatsoever?

I'm just...so confused with this predicament...

Georgia59

replied on July 10th, 2008

Especially eHealthy

I'm confused as well... how can you have an orgasm without feeling it? Since an orgasm is a sensation....

If you're really not feeling anything... you need to see a doctor.

But if the problem is that you're not feeling pleasure, that will take more experimenting. Do you masturbate? Buy a vibrator!!

desertbloom

replied on July 10th, 2008

New User

yes i'm sure i cum (lol honestly i thought there was a difference between when a person cums and when they orgasm but if they're the same then yes), usually during oral sex, and since at that time its not possible for the liquid coming out of me to be originating from anywhere but me, and its a significant amount, so i doubt it's just me getting wet.. but i dont feel it happening..

usually i only feel him as he's entering me.. sometimes i can feel his movement but taht's brief, usually i dont.

i can't imagine experimenting any more than we already have, we've tried different positions, rythms, pressures... i really dont know what to do anymore.. they dont sell vibrators where im at Smile

Georgia59

replied on July 11th, 2008

Especially eHealthy

Oh yes they do!! They sell vibrators online, if there really aren't any stores near you.

Smile

Masturbation will help you to know what feels good to you, and what makes you orgasm. If you don't know how to orgasm on your own, it would be a lot harder to orgasm during sex, because he doesn't know what makes you tick better than you do.

vampire_sweetness86

replied on July 11th, 2008

New User

The wetness also could be from him especially after he has cummed, and i can only cum if i am somehow stimulating(rubbing) my clit when me and my bf are having sex.. maybe ur bf isnt big enough? idk.. oh and vibrators you can buy online and if ur not sure if there is a sex shop near you look it up online. hope i helped!

desertbloom

replied on July 11th, 2008

New User

no it's not from him, he usually eats me out before he even gets his pants off, so that much im sure of
and i know that many people need to stimulate their clit..i figured im one of them
but what i dont understand is why i still dont feel anything, even when i cum (i'm 100% sure it's me)

oh and i live in saudi arabia, even our mail is intercepted..i figure ill get one when im out on vacation or something..
and i dont really trust doctors here, thats why this is freaking me out, i really hope someone here can help me

kaisha

replied on May 14th, 2009

New User

sad:(

or maybe he just has a small penis?

desertbloom

replied on May 16th, 2009

New User

wow this is old lol
i guess it just took me longer than most people to enjoy it
everythings amazing now!!
thanks

ayurcliniq_munnar

replied on July 10th, 2009

Experienced User

Dont do sex for the sake of sex as routine.
let it happen when you 'really want',for sometime
other times hav teasings anf enough foreplay
but say no to intercourse and do it when you really crave for it!

you try to hav control on your pelvic muscles
and keep you tight while he works

this may help you, desertbloom!

curious1975

replied on July 11th, 2009

New User

OK - I know this is an old post, BUT I had the same questions in some respects. I am with a new partner, I love the man to death, he is wonderful and very very good to me ( I could not have asked for a better man then him) Though when we have sex, I do not feel him inside of me. I have been doing those kickle(spelling) excersises. I am 34 and I have had 3 kids, he is not that big but there is nothing I can do about that. He can give me an orgasm when he is down on me (HELLS YEAH) in fact he is better then most men I have been with. I am very comfortable with him, and we will purchase a vibrator, I do know how to satisfy my self, BUT I want to feel him, is there any other suggestions ??? I also want to be able to please him as well.
I do not want sex to come in between us. I can ride him and he likes it, I can give him a BJ and he likes it, BUT is there any other sexual positions that I may feel ?

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