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hi well, I'm in a sexual relationship. It's my second one, and we've been having intercourse for the past three months. My problem is that when we have intercourse, I don't feel anything. I don't feel him go in, go out, or when he lets off. We tried a vibrating ring, and I still felt nothing. I'm wondering what's wrong with me, and I am definitely too scared to tell him. It was the same with my other partner, I felt nothing. Please help!! Crying or Very sad
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replied February 29th, 2008
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like you physically can't feel it or it just doesn't feel good?
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replied February 29th, 2008
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More details? If you mean that you can't orgasm with penatration alone then you are not abnormal. Most women need additional stimulation like clitoral to enable the ability to orgasm. I very rarely climax from just penatration, I need additional stimulation.
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replied May 21st, 2011
sex is important romance 1st make feel hot and play 1st its good you and your partner make effort how ypu injoying when the time u sex... and its good if have love each other.thats very important thing and feel so much good when u are sex with love.
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replied February 28th, 2012
hlooooooooooo
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replied March 1st, 2008
like i don't feel any physical change.
I can't feel him inside of me...
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replied March 1st, 2008
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run4life10 wrote:
like you physically can't feel it or it just doesn't feel good?


as in, i can't physically feel it.
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replied March 1st, 2008
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I'm sorry to hear that! Any physical injury or psychological event that might be related to that?
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replied March 1st, 2008
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Try rocking your pelvis and moving your hips a bit during intercourse. Sometimes you need to move your pelvis in order to feel him during penetration. Kegal exercises may help as well.
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replied March 10th, 2008
I know what you mean--sometimes I feel that way too. Can you feel it better if he puts a finger or two inside you? For some reason that gives me a lot more sensation. Or maybe you're using too much lubricant. Try using very little. Or try having him vary how fast or how slow he moves. You might also not be doing enough foreplay to arouse you, since intercourse often does more for the guy than the woman, no matter what the movies make it seem like! I think we women have to work harder to figure out what feels good. I can't climax at all from penetration alone, never, and I've been having sex for over 10 years. I heard that less than 20 % of women can, so don't feel bad about that.

I was also wondering what your opinions are on the whole G-spot issue. I can't seem to find mine or climax from it, no matter what position. Was I just born without one or is this a common experience?
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replied March 10th, 2008
freakyfashionista wrote:


I was also wondering what your opinions are on the whole G-spot issue. I can't seem to find mine or climax from it, no matter what position. Was I just born without one or is this a common experience?


Well Fashionista, I don't really think I have one either, so you and I are in the same boat, although even fingering makes me feel nothing. I think i'm out of luck and it's only going to be a mental feeling of closeness to him. Which in all, really sucks, and I'm going to go to my doctor about it this week, since my boyfriend and I are now engaged! and i really would actually be able to like sex. Embarassed
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replied March 2nd, 2012
i have the same issue, im in the first sexual relationship, i can only feel pain at the beginning then i feel nothing. i still live at home and don't want to talk to my mum about it so any advise on what to do? i panic alot if something isn't right about myself as well so am i normal?
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replied March 10th, 2008
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Try rocking your pelvis and moving your hips a bit during intercourse. Sometimes you need to move your pelvis in order to feel him during penetration. Kegal exercises may help as well.


I've done Kegal exercises, and yes I definitely have tried movig my hips and pelvis, but feel nothing. In fact, I feel nothing even with the insertion of an ice cube. It sounds crazy, but it didn't even have a feeling of coldness, whereas I'm assuming others would screech at even the thought of this.

[quote="Birch']I'm sorry to hear that! Any physical injury or psychological event that might be related to that?[/quote]

NO, not that I'm aware of. I hurt my tail bone back in grade seven, but even then I had no feeling.
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replied March 10th, 2008
antigone wrote:
Try rocking your pelvis and moving your hips a bit during intercourse. Sometimes you need to move your pelvis in order to feel him during penetration. Kegal exercises may help as well.


I've done Kegal exercises, and yes I definitely have tried movig my hips and pelvis, but feel nothing. In fact, I feel nothing even with the insertion of an ice cube. It sounds crazy, but it didn't even have a feeling of coldness, whereas I'm assuming others would screech at even the thought of this.

Birch wrote:
I'm sorry to hear that! Any physical injury or psychological event that might be related to that?


NO, not that I'm aware of. I hurt my tail bone back in grade seven, but even then I had no feeling.
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replied March 11th, 2008
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Though I haven't really heard of someone being completely numb, many women cannot orgasm just off vaginal penetration. I can't either, and though I can't remember exactly what the percent is (Eiri correct me if I'm wrong) but I think it was something like only 30% of women can, so its a pretty common thing.

Can you orgasm off of clitoral stimulation? In order for me to orgasm during sex either my boyfriend or myself need to stimulate my clit, whether its just touching or picking a position where his pelvic bone rubs against me. Would that help?

Congrats on your engagement! Very Happy
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replied March 11th, 2008
Maddie34 wrote:
Though I haven't really heard of someone being completely numb, many women cannot orgasm just off vaginal penetration. I can't either, and though I can't remember exactly what the percent is (Eiri correct me if I'm wrong) but I think it was something like only 30% of women can, so its a pretty common thing.

Can you orgasm off of clitoral stimulation? In order for me to orgasm during sex either my boyfriend or myself need to stimulate my clit, whether its just touching or picking a position where his pelvic bone rubs against me. Would that help?

Congrats on your engagement! Very Happy


I'm completely numb. I can't feel anything, let alone orgasm. I'm more stimulated just him feeling my breasts, as I feel nothing during sex, or even oral. And as for trying to stimulate, it would be great, if I could even feel him inside me. but thanks.

And thanks for the congrats, although I know I have to either get this checked out or tell him the truth.

We just recently bought studded condoms, and a vibrating ring, and i can't even feel those.
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replied March 11th, 2008
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No no, your clit is outside of your vagina and does not require penetration in order to stimulate.

Have you ever masturbated on your own? Did you feel penetration with your first relationship?
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replied March 11th, 2008
There's a book called For Yourself by Lonnie Barbach, a doctor, that really helped me when I didn't know how to stimulate yourself--yes, it sounds weird that anyone would need a book to learn that, but I did! It helped so much that I got it for my two closest female friends. They used it and it helped them too--none of us were very experienced at that point! It might not help with intercourse, but if you know how to stimulate yourself, then you can do that when you are having sex and your partner will be glad that you're having a good time, even if it isn't just from intercourse with him.
As far as having an orgasm from intercourse alone, I have absolutely no idea how it's done. I've heard that there are lots of sensitive spots inside us but haven't found them myself.
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replied March 20th, 2008
dear radar111, have you been to your doctor and learned anything?
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replied September 5th, 2009
hey im not ne1 on this web but ive being having the same problem i cant feel a thing. my names kerry and nothing ive tried works ive had it with the last three boyfriends i find myself just doin it 2 please him but feel numb no feelings at all no frill even tho i love him, i even get pains sometimes 4 days fru him trying to please me please let me know what the doctor says and if u want 2 chat let me know your email Smile goodluck
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replied October 8th, 2009
I have the same problem too. I feel absolutely nothing when having sex, though I pretend that I do to please my man. I have been having sex for about 8years now. I am so frustrated. Anyone knows how to make this right?
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replied October 8th, 2009
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I think you need to visit your doctor because to feel absolutely nothing while having sex is not very common and obviously frustrating...jenny
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replied October 22nd, 2009
Hi, i'm having a similar situation. I've been having sex for close to a year now with the same man and sadly to say it hasn't been the greatest. When we first started i would mostly always have an orgasm , but mine only last for one or two seconds (literally) then i won't feel an orgasm for the rest of the day. But recently i haven't been feeling anything at all. I don't even feel his penis in my vagina , i only feel it when he pulls out because it feels like something is coming out of me. Maybe we need more foreplay but i don't think thats the case for it to not happen everytime we make love. We've tried different position , he teases me before we have sex to see if i wasn't turned on enough, and we've tried it slower/faster , althought faster doesn't feel good to me at all & nothing has helped. We have gone six rounds and i don't feel anything at all. It is really frustrating and i get really grumpy because i try so hard to feel something Sad. I don't know if it's me or him, most likely me because he has accidently told me that his ex's used to feel something. & that's the part that just makes me more frustrated, he's in love with me more than ANYTHING, more than ANY girl in his past, like no other girl comes close & it's not fair that they felt something and i don't. Our love making is supposed to be more special you know? Sad




If you have any information please inform me. (:
Maybe i wasn't born with a "G spot" or something.



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Woman who just wants to enjoy making love with her soon to be husband Sad.
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