I have had sex with plenty of guys. I lost
my virginity about 2 years ago.
But the thing is...I don't find sex even
remotely enjoyable. When I am being
penetrated it just feels like an object
going in and outside of me. Nothing more.
It begins to hurt after awhile. No matter
what the guy will do slow, fast, I have
tried all the normal positions.
I don't really finger myself I have tried
it maybe like 4 times in my whole life it
also does nothing for me. I can make
myself have a clitoral orgasm with my
hands but guys can't do it with their
hands or mouth, it just feels like
nothing.
I wish I could enjoy sex more because I am
sure my boyfriend would like it more if I
did. He knows I can't have an orgasm but
we don't really talk about it to much
because I don't like to think about it.
What could be wrong with me? I feel like I
am missing out on an awesome part of being
alive.
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Tylanas
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Posted: 03-16-08 21:28pm
What about clitoral orgasm? Do you get
enjoyment from that? I have heard other
cases on this forum of women who simply do
not have vaginal pleasure during sex.
I think you should focus on what you CAN
get pleasure from: the clitoris. The fact
that it "feels like nothing" when a guy
does it sounds like a mental block to me.
You're not allowing yourself to enjoy it.
Try this: Masturbate with your boyfriend
there to the point where you're about to
orgasm, and then guide his fingers to
finish out. Maybe even go to the point
where you're pushed totally over and just
have him stimulate you through the shocks.
Slowly work him into your sex life!
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bbel
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Mar 2008 Posts: 4
Posted: 03-17-08 00:24am
The good news for you is that at least you
know you are capable of achieving orgasm!
I had also not experienced pleasure during
penetration, and have had dozens of
boyfriends and was married once. I found
that I had to be very aroused to enjoy it.
Now I do, my current (and hopefully
forever) love is very large and I climax
almost immediately when he penetrates me.
I am in absolute heaven with him. He
takes a long time with foreplay.
I never climaxed with oral either, until
now. I have had a lot of lovers, but only
my current boyfriend knows how to with a
special "trick" he does. Perhaps have
your boyfriend try it?? He can tease a
little and then after "working" on you a
while - put is lips around the tip of you
clitoris and then move his tongue very
quickly in a small motion on it. (not sure
how he learned this, but he does read a
lot ) It is amazing to
me, that now at the age of 38, I'm finally
enjoying sex!!
I wish you all the best of luck!
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exodia69
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Mar 2008 Posts: 33
Posted: 03-26-08 12:11pm
iv heard alot of girls say the exact same
thing. just some rod going in and out.
communicate the best you can, tell him try
to go deeper? let him watch you masturbate
a few times... if the dude has any sense
he can learn to find critical hit
points on your vagina, maybe. thats what i
would do.
) It is amazing to
me, that now at the age of 38, I'm finally
enjoying sex!!
