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I have been seeing this guy for a few months and we have had sex 3 times and every time he doesn't cum. I am not shy at all and asked him why. He's 25 I didn't think this would be an issue yet. He just said that he doesn't cum when he is having sex, but that if he's masturbating he can. Naturally I thought it was something that I was doing wrong and he said it wasn't. He also gets hard for a little bit, but goes soft shortly after. On my end its kinda depressing cause I want him to enjoy himself like I am, then I'm worrying about it too much and I lose interest lol. When he is in me it's great! But he goes soft within a few min. Same thing happened this morning, but since we are getting a little more comfortable with our sex lives together when he went soft I said something and he mentioned he wanted me to talk dirty. I prob. went as red as an apple because while I experiment sexually, dirty talk has never been something I did. It's too embarrassing! But if it's what it takes I'll try it....... I have no idea what to do though. I mean what are the chances something like that will make that much of a difference?? I'm afraid that this stupid issue is going to make or break us and I rather it make us. Any suggestions?
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replied July 10th, 2010
Hi there, thank you for posting your question. My area of expertise is in human sexual dysfunction. I hope I can be of some small help to you.

Your fellow has anorgasmia -- a situation where a man has difficulty ejaculating in the presance of his partner but no such when alone and masturbation. I trust he is not on any antidepressants or illicit drugs.He may also be slipping into erectile dysfunction because he is getting anxious about himself.

He may have to see a sex counsellor or I can mentor you through this on the Internet but the trick is to back off intercourse altogether for the moment. Just take it right off the menu and concentrate on simply pleasuring each other. When he learns how to ejaculate from your manual or oral administrations he can them move on to intercourse. Be patient with him. Its not his fault! Good luck.

Dr Andrew Rynne.

www.andrewrynne.com



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