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Q: Does she still dig me?
asked by: soapbox on October 7th, 2008
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2 years ago, I met this chick in school, and at first I wasn't interested, but would still kind of flirt around, and figgured I had nothing to lose. Turns out she starts to like me, I end up causing her to break up with her boyfriend, and we still don't go out. Then I start to like her, and act a little more gentlemen like, and it seemed like she lost interest. This all happend durring a school year, and we ended up not talking over the summer, and it KILLED me. now we'll talk and all, but it seems as if nothing's really changed. Over the summer I'd give her a call, and always she'd have an excuse or "forget" to call back. Don't know the truth, but it just seems like she just bs' her excuses. We only see eachother for short periods of time, barely enough to get into anything serious, and it seems as if she payes more attention in everyone else but me. Of course this could be jelousy, but I barley get a goodby anymore. Is she just tryin to reel me in a little more, or is she uninterested? The only other thing I could think of is I'm quite fond of just about every drug, and she believes I live a crazy drug enduced lifestyle filled with LSD, cocaine, and god knows what. But she's just as guilty as me, which makes things even better (for my taste atleast) I'm always thinking about her, almost daily for 3 years now, and just need some advice on how to get out the truth, wether she loves me or not.
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danielv
replied on October 7th, 2008
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love's a pretty strong word. first find out if she's even interested.

if you're into her, you could always just tell her how you feel, invite her out somewhere, see what she says. take some action, or move on - otherwise you're only obsessing.

one last thing - so you're into drugs but you don't want people to think you are? Wink
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soapbox
replied on October 7th, 2008
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That's why I came here in the first place. For over a year I've been tryin to find out for a year, and I don't want to make it awkward, and ruin it. My status is she thinks I got the world by the balls, and by putting myself in a position where she's making the choice, it shows the weakness I don't want her to see. And I've tried and tried to say hey, lets get a drink, and even have left messages say hey, I got something you might like, call me back (referring to psychoactive substances) and I don't even get a call back saying ah, I can't today, maby later.

As for the drugs, I don't care if people know I like my drugs, but I try to keep it a little more classy (yes, drugs can have a classyness to them!) by keeping it a little discrete, and not just denying it.
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danielv
replied on October 7th, 2008
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Bro, women dont care about bravado. It's a front they see through. At this age, she probably just wants attention, and most likely has no idea what she wants to begin with.

What is the classy bit about drugs? The part where people pontificate about the meaning of life, or the part where you might feel like you're getting away with something? hehe...

Also, there is a difference between denying something and advertising it. It seems that for you it is more about the identity that comes from using than it is the actual chemical experience. You said so yourself - that you're attracted to the chick due to her usage.

If this is an identity thing, you gotta ask yoruself who is forming your identity. Ever see the matrix?
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soapbox
replied on October 8th, 2008
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I don't think she has any idea what she wants either. She's constantly bouncing around, constantly changing something, making her impossible to really figgure out.

The classyness in drugs? With drugs like amphetamines and opiates, it's hardly there, exept maby opium, but I'm into the whole mind expansion thing, and hate the kids that get f'd up just for the sake of bordom. The whole disrespect of authority has never even crossed my mind but as much as I hate to admit, they are a great way to temporarily escape.

I actually met her when she had no illicit drug experience at all, but she's always had an interest. I'm not convinced this is why I'm attracted to her, but it is a common theme and something to talk about and experience togeather, which has always been a little fantasy.

The matrix was a CRAZY movie. Definitly gets you thinking. But I guess I want the intel of Tim Leary, the attitude of Jim Morrison, and the personality of Jerry Garcia. Darn I'm a hippie!
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