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what do you girls think?? does the size of the penis really matter in a male during sex??? does it feel the same? i have never been wiyh a guy that has a very big one but even like this it sometimes hurts a little. does it hurt with a big one or does it feel better? i would like to know!!!!
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replied March 12th, 2008
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Well I've only ever been with one partner. But I do know that there is such a thing as too big. Me and my bf fit perfectly together, and if he were any bigger I think it would be painful. I don't really think there's such a thing as too small either, as long as he knows how to work it.
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replied February 22nd, 2013
thats true i only been with one guy an i wouldnt say he is big but it feel gud the size does not matter as long as he know to used it correct..
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replied March 12th, 2008
I think that there is definately such a thing as too small. I once had a bf with an extremely small penis. It was so small, it was pretty much worthless. I agree that it can also be too big, but I'd rather have extra than not enough.
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replied March 12th, 2008
well with the partners ive been with, their size is normal, my husband's is also normal and it sometimes hurts inside i guess it hits my cervix or something. so i just wanted to know if there was more peasure with something bigger. i once heard of a lady that divoooooooorced her husband because he had it too big and wanted to get it all inside of her wooooooow, she was in pain. pretty rare reason to get divorced lol!!!
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replied March 13th, 2008
I only think size matters to a certain point (personally). It has to be a good enough size to feel it, but I really dont think big or huge is great. I was with a guy once who was really big, I was really suprised, and I thought the sex was gonna be great. I ended up mostly hating it and waiting for it to be over, because it was just uncomfortable.
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replied January 29th, 2012
im 17 and have a 7 in is that good?
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replied November 18th, 2012
I'm 16 and have a 7.4 inch penis, is that good?
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replied March 17th, 2008
I would say size doesn't "matter" (unless he is very small) but it does make a difference. I love my boyfriends large penis, though it's a little more difficult for me to perform oral - I don't mind - because even that turns me on knowing what it feels like inside me. FABULOUS!! I would hate to have less now that I've experienced more! Wink
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replied March 17th, 2008
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My ex boyfriend who i lost my virginity too was huge. He was ten inches. I thought that was too big. It did hurt and I don't even think it could fit all the way in. My boyfriend now is small. He is only about 4 1/2 to 5 inches. I must say that i love the sex better now than I did with my ex-bf. I never orgasmed with my ex. I have more of a sexual desire with my boyfriend now too. So i do believe that there is such thing as too big. Maybe too small if it was like 2 inches or something. My man is small now but he knows how to work it and get the job done.
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replied May 4th, 2012
Same for me. I had an ex who was pretty good in size. Don't think it was quite 10 in, but it was bigger than anyone I've been with since.

He was my first as well. So I thought the sex was good (even though I rarely wanted to sleep with him while we were dating. I guess that should have told me something).

But then I was with a guy, who is just small all around. I'm 5'3, he's around my height maybe just a few cm taller. So everything else was proportionate to that. And to date, he's still the best sex I've ever had. He could get me to orgasm within minutes.

My ex before had to really work and prep me before he could get me there.

I don't think the size matters in the least bit. If you're turned on enough, that's all that matters.
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replied March 17th, 2008
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Most women don't orgasm from intercourse alone (they need clitoral stimulation) and the size of the penis doesn't matter as far as clitoral stimulation goes.
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replied March 1st, 2013
I agree totally...I have to have clitoral stimulation and actually prefer this more....love oral sex...love to receive and give....so I like a medium one 8-9 inches is great but the clitoral stimulatiom I definitely prefer .....
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replied March 19th, 2008
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Most women don't orgasm from intercourse alone (they need clitoral stimulation) and the size of the penis doesn't matter as far as clitoral stimulation goes.


We're not talking just about orgasms, we're talking about if it feels good. Sex can feel good without orgasming from it.

Now, I've only slept with one guy so I guess I'm bad for advice, but I really think if he was significantly smaller or larger sex just wouldn't be as enjoyable. We fit perfectly. He's about 7", so about average. Hopefully this isn't too much info, but I, along with probably many other women, like deep penetration the most during sex, so if a guy was too small to get near my cervix I don't think I'd enjoy sex so much. And if he was too big and hit my cervix... well that'd just be painful. I hate to say it but to some girls, size matters.
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replied March 19th, 2008
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I'm not sure how big my guy is, but I think for me it matter more about angle than how deep it goes or how big he is. Some angles I just love but if we move it slightly in another direction then it hurts so we need to try something else.

Though I've only been with one guy, I doubt it would really bother me one way or the other as long as they knew how to find spots feel good for the both of us.
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replied March 19th, 2008
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Yeah, I agree. But you can always deal with size issues by changing position or angle or whatever, and make it feel good! I like average (5-5.5)
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replied March 20th, 2008
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I lost my virginity to a very small guy and it was horrible, I didnt even feel it! As long as it is not that small, the size really does not matter. They just have to know how to use what they have Wink
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replied March 22nd, 2008
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I agree with most ladies here. Very small you won't feel it. Average and larger is OK.
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replied March 24th, 2008
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Most of my boyfriends have been average size but my current bf is very big so it took a while to get used to and sometimes he can't put it all inside me or it hurts.
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replied April 4th, 2009
how do you define small size
bbel wrote:
I would say size doesn't "matter" (unless he is very small) but it does make a difference. I love my boyfriends large penis, though it's a little more difficult for me to perform oral - I don't mind - because even that turns me on knowing what it feels like inside me. FABULOUS!! I would hate to have less now that I've experienced more! Wink


i want to know what is small size mine is just 13 cm
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replied February 18th, 2011
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13 cm is just over 5 inches, it's on the small size but not too small. Consider yourself blessed, my boyfriend is just over 4', like 10cm.

Also, everyone, it's not just the length. Girth matters too!
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replied January 29th, 2012
what do you think about 7 in?
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replied May 3rd, 2012
how do you like your boyfriends member at 10cm?
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replied May 13th, 2011
A bigger pens is more pleasurable thanks to either longer stroke lengths or if its bigger girth it stimulated more of the inside. If its too long it can bang the cervix which is uncomfortable so huge is just as bad as small, average is ok but big is best.

More positions with less straining & slipping out too and they look better and are more of a turn on.

Sure a man with an average one who knows what he's doing is great but still not as great as a big one belonging to a man who knows what he's doing
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replied June 8th, 2011
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my penis is about 5"inch.did it perfect size for sex?
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replied January 5th, 2012
Mine measures about 3" hard. I had an ex who decided it would be funny to tell my big mouthed best friend about it after a rather messy break up. She called it "the starter kit." That's haunted me to this day, so I don't even bother trying to meet girls or have relationships. That's always the first thing I think about when I meet someone I'm attracted to.

I've hit the point now that I'm in my mid 30's and I suddenly realize I have little to no experience with the opposite sex because I've locked myself in this shell for so long. Which makes me even more self conscience about everything because I feel that as I get older it's going to be harder to meet someone and form a relationship because of my lack of experience.

But hey, I'm still standing upright, I'm still breathing, and I have a decent job. I could be doing worse I guess.
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replied January 11th, 2012
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bud I'm only 21 already had a really good paying job and a couple study buddies in high school traveled n had a hooker 4 the first time then settled down with a gf. so I would say I'm experienced enough to give you some enlightenment. I am still just as lost in life as you probably are lots of mixed and/or repressed emotions etc. Think bigger than the box you are in because there's a lot more pleasure in life than just sex like anything spontaneous that sparks your plug do something illegal for once...i have a couple things first if a girl is really your priority in this life, get a girl who is petite size (of age of course) basic anatomy you can figure out why and it usually holds about 80% true. I have about 6ish inch penis...7 on a good day n decent girth yet i still feel inadequate to the rest of the world. There will always be a bigger penis out there so learn get over it. Also Something that turned me off to chicks and sex is watching gruesome internet vids...made me want to try and change the world for the better especially on acid. didn't care much for intimacy just sorrow and hope. and btw I live in SoCal so you can imagine the competition I'm up against. So there you go interesting new perspective hopefully you had some kind of enlightenment or hopefully came back to read this super long comment. good luck to you sir and hope to meet you in the next life!
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replied May 3rd, 2012
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Don't sweat it. a girl who loves you will love you. sex is just a PART OF the expression of that love. I would concentrate on learning to be GREAT with your technique. Then your size won't be an issue because she'll be satisfied. Remember-her orgasm is her orgasm whether she is with a 3 inch penis or an 8 incher. BTW, the penis isn't the only thing that's important. Use your tongue well and she'll love you forever! she'll probably show off HER skill at oral too, which is one of my favorite things!

BTW, I'm just about average.(I think) I've been with a lot of different women and I've never had one bring up size except to tell me how good I made them feel.

If she loves you, she'll take ALL of you good, bad and ugly(an expression) and she'll love you and you'll love her. I'm happily in my third marriage and my wife says I'm the perfect size. I know for a fact she's had bigger, but we enjoy our love making sessions immensely. We are only expressing our love for each other in a physical manner. It is the love that makes it great. Trust me-without the love there you might as well pleasure yourself because it's just as good as screwing someone you don't like and who doesn't like you. (you're just hiding it from each other because you're not ready to give up yet).

You are still quite young and have lots of time to find that girl with whom you'll spend the rest of your life. When you do find her, do whatever it takes to make her as happy as you can. The rewards are IMMENSE!!!
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replied January 10th, 2012
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To the post above, I would not stress sex as a serious matter. As I read your post, I think you have very poor self-esteem and if you are already focusing on that event when meeting and attracted to women, I can assure that you are setting yourself up for failure. Women do not like men with NO confidence. All women are not shallow and there are more things than sex in a relationship.
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