My boyfriend and I have been living together for almost 1 year, together for more than two years. He is seperated from his wife for the past 5 years and we all get along ok. We get his 3 girls every other weekend and we always have a blast. However, recently his wife has begun bringing up the past. She now sends the kids in T-shirts from their honeymoon instead of pajamas, gave him an old card that she had given him when they had a fight, pictures of them from when they were together, and most recently she baked him a cake for his birthday-his favorite cake- and made it clear that SHE made it for him, the kids didn't help her. There are about 100 other things, too much to list, but the last straw is that now she has begun dating my boyfriends brother, her brother in law whom she always hated while they were married. The reason they are not divorced is because they had papers drawn up for the divorce and she told him how much it would cost. Stupidly, he gave her cash. She spent it and now they can't afford to do it. I have talked to him about it and he didn't notice until the cake thing. Now he says he will talk to her but he is afraid she will take it the wrong way and make it difficult to see the kids. How should we handle this? She is very emotional and flys off the handle at everything. But it's a slap in my face evry time she does this. My boyfriend and I are very comfortable with each other and in a stable relationship. I'm not jealous or worried that he will go back to her, but I still think what she is doing is disrespectful. Is it me?