honestly, that is the reality of a teenaged boy.
not many are able to start acting responsibily.
i mean thats the reality of many teenagers out there, still wanting to hang with friends, wait for their parents to do their chores etc.
he cannot take this to court, this is your body and you get to decide what is the best possible outcome for this child. and if that means adoption, then that will be the best choice because you are being wise and really thinking this whole thing over. like you already know a child is expensive, and if two people are not on board 100%, that is alot of stress and responsibility of your shoulders.
what if you and your mother made an appointment to meet with an adoption agency, that way you get a feel of their expectations, what their standards are, what they look for in couples looking to adopt, and what your options are when placing a child up for adoption.
you can decide how involved in the childs life you are by having an open adoption, and you could also recieve updates on that child as well.
the fact that your ex says he will take this to court just shows how immature and dense he is.
and i doubt that he would win this case, because i am sure there would be expectations that he would have to meet, and so far he has done squat. i think he is just fascinated with the idea of being a parent, but does not actually want to take responsibility for his actions in preparation for this child.
but again, that is how most teenaged boys are.
i think you should keep the mature decision making between you and your mother.
and remember, what ever choice you make it will be the best one for this child.
and if that happens to be adoption then that is the best choice, you would not only be giving the best possible outcome to that child, but a wonderful gift to a loving couple. talk to your mom about this, and dont let your ex control your decision.

if you need to talk, PM me anytime.