okay well heres the thing i have been with my bf for almost 2 yrs..and i really feel tht i love him..i know tht i love him..he is my first love and that im sure of..he is my first boyfriend and i am his first gf..i really do have plans for us in the future..i want to marry him and have his kids.but i feel like if he dsnt feel the same..and tht really hurts..i am 19 and he is 20..and well everytime i wana tlk about our future he seems not to be intrested tht much..he things tht we are both to young to be thinking about tht..he has tld me tht he wld like to marry me and have kids with me...but tht he just dsnt knw when...he says he dsnt like to plan things out..cuz i tell him tht i wanna get married by the time tht im like 22 nd have my first child at 23..idk am i pushing him to much..wat shld i do??
i agree with Shawty_09 guys are always afraid of planning things like these and taking decisions that will affect their entire life..just wait a few more months and you will see that things will come the way you want them to.just don't push him right now:)
It is ok to have children before marrage if that is an option. I did with my first. their are a lot of things that scare men, costy rings, big weddings, just tell him that you both need to talk things out to see if your compatable if you want 1 kid and he wants 3 you have to know that stuff. also if you want a big wedding and he wants a small one maybe if you say those things he may sit down and talk it out with you. good luck hope I helped
Well think of it like this. His friends (and probably yours too) are likely out partying and drinking and flirting and such, and he's in a dedicated relationship. It doesn't sound like he's a bad boyfriend but it's not the right age to be talking about marriage and kids when you guys don't even have solid plans for how you would afford that marriage or those kids. That scares guys! You want to have kids -- who's gonna pay for them? You? Him? He's young! He doesn't want to think about that now! It doesn't mean he doesn't love you enough though =). If you get to be another year older and he still doesn't want to talk about it and you want to more than ever, then maybe that would be a sign that you need to move on to somebody who's more willing to fit your plan. But who knows, a lot can change in a year and maybe you'll start thinking more like him.
Keep this in mind: The average marriage age is 25 for females, 27 for males. Most people like to get their education, get a career going, and then marry once they're secure enough to afford things. I'm 21 and have been married 3 years. I don't want kids right now b/c we're just not stable enough -- neither does my husband. We married early b/c we knew we wanted to be together. I waited til he was on the same wavelength as I was. Give your man some time too =).