I've been "getting to know" this guy I've actually known for 3 years, but we only got properly chatting 3 months ago. On the night in question he said he'd see me at a gig the following week and he'd phone me. He didn't phone, he didn't turn up, and the next day he texted saying he was sorry but something came up at work and he had to sort it out. It seems he completely forgot about our "date" and so I completely forgot about him.

A couple weeks later we started texting, only occasionally, then he said he'd love to meet up and do something. Only trouble is, we live 150 miles apart and he was about to go into a very busy time at work, plus he had a week or so away.

Texts were intermittent, then I got a text out of the blue asking if he could call me the next night and run a few things by me. He said he had loads to say, loads to tell me, and loads to ask. The next evening he texted, but sure enough he called, although he was in the middle of a meeting (he's in a band and they're in the middle of big changes). We chatted for about half an hour, then he said he'd call me back in a bit, but he never did. I knew he was busy so I let it go. We started texting again 2 days later.

I was finally able to meet him at one of his gigs and he was over the moon to see me there, delighted, walked me to my car, etc, etc, and he asked me to come along to their next gig in 2 days time, which I did.

By this time he was working 6am - 4pm every day, sometimes going back in at 7pm until 11pm and sometimes the next morning until 1am, then back in at 6am again. This was happening for about 3 weeks. The only time he had off he was then driving the 150 miles to gigs and back in the same evening.

Then he thought he had a weekend off coming up, and he asked if he could come to mine on the Friday, talk, get to know each other properly, ask each other loads of questions, have a drink, listen to music, and chill. He said we needed to meet up away from a gig so we could have some "alone time". He wanted to come on Friday and go home on Sunday, and I said he could, he just had to confirm he'd got the weekend off. On the Monday he texted to say he was really fed up because he couldn't have the weekend off at all. He'd already said if he didn't come to mine Friday, he'd still come on the Saturday as he had a gig that night. But when I asked if he was still coming on the Saturday, he avoided the subject.

On the Saturday he'd asked if he could stay at mine, he got home (150 miles away) to find one of his mates had dropped down dead of a heart attack aged 38. On the following Saturday, he still came for his gig and I still saw him there, but before he'd left home for the 150 mile drive, he'd found out another friend had dropped down dead. We had a long chat and he said he thought it would be best if we left things until all of this "stuff" was over with. It was only another week and I said I didn't care if I didn't see him so long as we were talking. So then we were talking almost every day. On the Wednesday he even called me twice, saying the first funeral was the following day, it was going to be a horrible day, and could he call me if he had time. I said of course he could. He didn't, but then I got a text on Friday ...

The text said he'd had a rotten day the day before and a hard weekend coming up, and to be honest he didn't want to get or be involved with anyone. He said he'd not seen his son in weeks so the next weekend he got off he'd be spending it with him. I DO understand this, but I couldn't understand why, when he thought he'd get the previous weekend off, his first thought was to spend it with me rather than with the son. He said he didn't like this "why haven't you called back", and "why haven't you texted", and now I was making him feel guilty, but I hadn't done any of those things at all.

So my questions are: Does he really have too much on at the moment to be embarking on a relationship? Is he really interested but just thinks he isn't because he can't fit it in? Is it likely he's had grief about not seing his son? Is he making himself feel guilty and lashing out at me? Or is he not bothered at all?

My response to him was that I thought his head was a shed at the moment so I'd give him "today", but if/when he was really ready to talk to me again, he was to make it a phone call and make it good.

Am I likely to hear from him again?

Thank you.