does anyone else do this????

i do it, personally if theres nothing to hide why should he care you know? in the beginning of my relationship i'm currently in we always looked at each others phones or ask "whos that" or w/e, he actually deleted one of my guy friends phone numbers at one point, made me laugh...i really didn't care...there was NOTHING between me and that guy friend nor would there ever have been I guess it was just something that bugged him...i mean personally, i think if theres nothing to hide..why should he care? look at my phone idc, you're not gonna find anything but boring girl texts and what not, but if he starts acting weird i'm like you..i get nervous and worried and suspicious...but if hes gonna be with me, he'll be with me...we had the whole "have you ever cheated" convo..he's been cheated on by his ex and all i ask of him is if he's unhappy, just tell me and break things off..dont break my heart by tricking me into loving you and then having me find out you cheated on me...bc im good at finding stuff like this out...almost too good...

but to add to my last post, i could see how it could get annoying...trust is the foundation of any relationship and sometimes if the person feels like you dont trust them its insulting...i dunno, i guess it depends on the person..i really dont care if my bf snoops through my phone so long as he isn't contacting anyone..but i could see how alot of people like their privacy and it isn't a cause for concern

i really agree with you, my point was it payed off the times i did do it, and yeah, i don't care at all if he looked through my phone, but i can also see how it could be a problem because trust is at stake and yeah, people do deserve their privacy...but it's kind of a problem for me because i remember an instance not too long ago when a guy friend wanted a date. I went over to his apartment and we were alone, and he left to go to the liquer store, i could tell what was on his mind, and he unknowingly left his phone on the coffee table, and i was sitting there alone, resisting the temptation for awhile, saying "im not going to look through it" over again, then i gave into the temptation, and looked through it, and saw recent messages, like some that said "hey sexy" and "you were great last night" "wanna do it again sometime" from like a night or two before, and a few other unmentionable but questionable texts from other girls. I felt great because I felt like a saved myself from being with him, cuz while he was saying he was interested in me it sounds like he may have been with another girl, and i felt good that I found that out before anything happened...he came back with some wine, and i stayed for about another 2 hours to be polite, never mentioned anything to him, and told him i had to leave and go to sleep bc i had to work early the next day, and he told me that i could stay the night, and i politely refused. well, he still tries to get me to come over and I just fight the tempation to tell him to go hang out with "jenn" or whoever sent him those messages on his phone (name changed). but i haven't yet because I dont want him to think i'm a snoop or something, i don't know whether this is good or bad good that i saved myself from a player or bad that i was violating his privacy and going off of stuff that I had seen............sorry its so long

I think if you are just dating someone you dont have a right to know if they are with anyone else. But when you become serious or develope feelings for him then you can ask if there is anyone else and ask where he stands with things. Like whether or not he wants a relationship or if he wants his freedom to see whomever he wants. I just think its better to ask someone 1st if you have doubts to see what is really going on.

Dont get me wrong though. If I were you in your previous relationships I would have done the same thing. If anyone gave me reason to doubt them, I would surely investigate. Because like you said, it saved you a lot of heartache.

I only once went through an old boyfriends phone because I knew he was cheating but then I thought to myself, "If I feel like I need to go through his phone constantly, is that someone I want to be with?" Then answer was no
good advice willa

I don't think we are all born cheaters and I never think,even *fantasize* about having sex with someone else. To me, thats just as bad as cheating.

Oh ok, i get you

I think it's okay if you really feel that something is wrong. I know that doesn't sound honest, but you have the right to know don't you? If you are in the relationship whole-heartedly and you feel that your guy isn't because of odd behavior, than go for it. Your heart will always be right, follow that.