General Debate Forum - Do you really want to look younger for your age?

sara19

replied on January 24th, 2009

Experienced User

Another thing is a guy perverted if he finds me pretty or attractive? If he doesn't know what age I really am? Or even if he does know how old I am?

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marytartor

replied on January 25th, 2009

Experienced User

Having that problem would be awful!

well it is like some kiddie-porn some of those girls are the legal age of consent. But they are representing children and therfore fueling the fires of pedophilia

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homerx

replied on January 25th, 2009

Moderator

marytartor wrote:

Having that problem would be awful!

well it is like some kiddie-porn some of those girls are the legal age of consent. But they are representing children and therfore fueling the fires of pedophilia

What? That is not a problem,that is a blessing! Dont worry,I think you would know if the guy was a child molester perve or not..your smart..and gorgeous! Enjoy it! Love yourself and enjoy being young and beautiful because in the blink of an eye you will be older and look back saying why didn't I enjoy my youth.I am 49 and look 49.I wish i looked 39 or 29...come on,girl! your blessed!And don't worry,I am not a perve,I am 100% gay and if that is you in your avatar then I say you gosign

girl!!!!

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motherofhighspiritedones

replied on January 25th, 2009

Moderator

I get carded all the time too hun. It makes me sorta proud...as for men hitting on me, well, that does happen. Do they know I am 25, no, not the strangers. But I do believe the kids I tote around hint at it. I just tend to go with the flow and enjoy every moment of my blessed youthful face. Because as soon as I hit 30, its probably all south from there lol. For the guys that seem perverted when they look at you, disregard it if it doesn't creep you out. Men find youthful faces appealing. It doesn't mean that they are necessarily out to grab little teenyboppers.

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sara19

replied on January 25th, 2009

Experienced User

homerx wrote:

marytartor wrote:

Having that problem would be awful!

well it is like some kiddie-porn some of those girls are the legal age of consent. But they are representing children and therfore fueling the fires of pedophilia

What? That is not a problem,that is a blessing! Dont worry,I think you would know if the guy was a child molester perve or not..your smart..and gorgeous! Enjoy it! Love yourself and enjoy being young and beautiful because in the blink of an eye you will be older and look back saying why didn't I enjoy my youth.I am 49 and look 49.I wish i looked 39 or 29...come on,girl! your blessed!And don't worry,I am not a perve,I am 100% gay and if that is you in your avatar then I say you gosign

girl!!!!

I wasn't quite sure what Mary was trying to say...

That is me thank you! It was taken at my youngest brother's wedding.

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NeutralUsername

replied on January 25th, 2009

Active User, very eHealthy

Re: Do you really want to look younger for your age?

sara19 wrote:

Do we really want to look younger for our age? When you are 50 will you really want the body of 30 year old?

I got carded tonight at a concert stage pass and all where the age limit was 16! I am 25!I didn't have my ID on me. I had to call someone back stage to go get my ID from my purse that someone else had carried in and wait by the bouncer. It was humiliating having to stand there.

This is not the first time this has happened to me. This happens at least once a month for me it gets old. I often chaperone a Church youth group for the 12 to 14 year olds and often get mistaken for one of them.

How many of you would like to have my problem? There all these products to make you look younger none to make you look older?

I know I am an extreme case at 4'11 and 87 pounds but wouldn't you rather age gracefully like Diane Keaton, Sophia Loren, or Katherine Hepburn?

I feel your pain. I'm going to be 28 soon, but I often look between the ages of 13-16 to people. I've had many problems with looking younger than my age. I'd be here forever describing all my embarrasing situations. I work as a librarian in a middle school, and I have been mistaken for a student even by my own student helpers.

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AyaMiyaki

replied on January 25th, 2009

Especially eHealthy

I'm 27 and am constantly mistaken for a 16 year old. It's not so bad most of the time, except I'm also a mother of a 2 year old and a newborn. I get dirty looks sometimes in stores because people assume I'm a teenaged mother with two children.

I'm told constantly that I'll appreciate it later in life. Right now I'm just having to endure it.

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sara19

replied on January 25th, 2009

Experienced User

I have gotten carded by cops when they have seen me with my ex-boyfriends... even the ones who aren't 15 years older than me. All but him were the same age as me. One time when when I was out with my most recent ex a waitress said while he was in the bathroom "It is so nice to see a daughter and father getting along so well!" I didn't bother to correct her...

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motherofhighspiritedones

replied on January 26th, 2009

Moderator

AyaMiyaki wrote:

I'm 27 and am constantly mistaken for a 16 year old. It's not so bad most of the time, except I'm also a mother of a 2 year old and a newborn. I get dirty looks sometimes in stores because people assume I'm a teenaged mother with two children.

I'm told constantly that I'll appreciate it later in life. Right now I'm just having to endure it.

Ah yes, the famous "OMG, you dirty little teenage mother sucking up my taxes with your welfare benefits" look...UGH.

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killbill

replied on January 26th, 2009

Experienced User

I just want to be happy for my age. I think we worry too much about how we look when it's really such a small part of who we are. What I really wish is that I knew then what I know now. If I could go back to when I was in my early 20s, I would tell myself to just enjoy it and not be so insecure. I would tell myself to enjoy my youthful body for what it can do for me, not how it looks in the eyes of others. That would have freed me up to do a lot of the things I didn't do then because I was afraid of how I would look doing it. I think you gain a lot of confidence with age and maturity (and motherhood) and I would never trade that for younger looks.

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AyaMiyaki

replied on January 26th, 2009

Especially eHealthy

motherofhighspiritedones wrote:

AyaMiyaki wrote:

I'm 27 and am constantly mistaken for a 16 year old. It's not so bad most of the time, except I'm also a mother of a 2 year old and a newborn. I get dirty looks sometimes in stores because people assume I'm a teenaged mother with two children.

I'm told constantly that I'll appreciate it later in life. Right now I'm just having to endure it.

Ah yes, the famous "OMG, you dirty little teenage mother sucking up my taxes with your welfare benefits" look...UGH.

Yeah, there's a lot of that. But also a lot of people down here are religious and conservative, so I get a lot of "look at that filthy heathen" looks too. Never mind the fact that I have a wedding ring on and my husband's on the next aisle looking at dvd's... Rolling Eyes

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Torwadeo

replied on January 26th, 2009

New User

I don't think there is anything wrong with it. Your of age. Its not perverted.

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homerx

replied on January 26th, 2009

Moderator

sara19 wrote:

homerx wrote:

marytartor wrote:

Having that problem would be awful!

well it is like some kiddie-porn some of those girls are the legal age of consent. But they are representing children and therfore fueling the fires of pedophilia

What? That is not a problem,that is a blessing! Dont worry,I think you would know if the guy was a child molester perve or not..your smart..and gorgeous! Enjoy it! Love yourself and enjoy being young and beautiful because in the blink of an eye you will be older and look back saying why didn't I enjoy my youth.I am 49 and look 49.I wish i looked 39 or 29...come on,girl! your blessed!And don't worry,I am not a perve,I am 100% gay and if that is you in your avatar then I say you gosign

girl!!!!

I wasn't quite sure what Mary was trying to say...

That is me thank you! It was taken at my youngest brother's wedding.

I dont know what Mary meant either...you R a sweetheart! luvcomp

I wish you all the best and hope we talk more...

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sara19

replied on January 26th, 2009

Experienced User

Thanks me too!

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Carolinagirl_16

replied on January 26th, 2009

New User

Yes

Most people don't think I'm as old as I am. Count your blessings sweeting and hope you age gracefully. The older we get the younger we want to look. I would give anything to get carded now:)

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AyaMiyaki

replied on January 26th, 2009

Especially eHealthy

marytartor wrote:

Having that problem would be awful!

well it is like some kiddie-porn some of those girls are the legal age of consent. But they are representing children and therfore fueling the fires of pedophilia

Kiddie porn? glance

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killbill

replied on January 26th, 2009

Experienced User

I'd rather see a woman who looks her age than one who looks like she's been injected and botoxed and face lifted. I swear everyone on tv is starting to look the same; that Jokerish, half frozen smile, like you get after you've been to the dentist to get fillings, and those gross, bloated cheeks and lips. Liver lips = not attractive. I wish we could see some thin lipped actresses for a change. And everyone shiny and glowing like they've just had their outer layer of skin scrubbed off for them. Id prefer to see crows feet and jowls any day.

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Dannzibelle

replied on January 29th, 2009

Supporter

I look older than i am and that does my head in, ok it can be handy from time to time but i get sick and tired of the same sequence of questions,'how old are you really?' me: '17' 'no REALLY how old are you?' me: 'like i said 17' 'but there's no way you can be 17'. I'm usually mistaken for 20-22 so why would i lie and pretend to be 17lol

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Topaz2

replied on March 24th, 2009

New User

Mixed blessing

Hey there,
I'm you a decade and a half later. I'll be turning 40 this summer and men still call me a "pretty girl" and think I'm barely 30. The really decent men in my age range tend to respond to me like father figures even if I can tell they're attracted to me. It's ridiculous to want to tell them, "Hey, I'm almost 40 - take me seriously" because it's completely wrong in our culture to divulge that info (unless you know someone well). Partly because I'm fit, have a lot of energy and am a bit shy -- they think I'm still "sweet" and not a real woman. At the same time, married women sometimes act like I'm a threat because youthful looks are what our society says are important. It's a mixed blessing because people (unfortunately) treat you more kindly if they think you're young or look good. Our values are all mixed up.

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