I'm here researching this subject seriously -- well as seriously as possible.
I'm married. My wife gives me oral when I ask, (most days,) but she refuses to answer questions, she's against me writing the book I'm planning. We've been married more than 30 years, and neither of us are going anywhere. I am trying to write a book, and I have a couple of questions...
Here's the background...
In college I decided that I liked oral sex above penis/vaginal sex and so that's all I did with women I dated. I tried to be gentle about it when I told them, if they didn't want to continue the date I always got them home whenever they wanted, if they just wanted to go to dinner or see a movie I tried to be the best short-term bf I could be.
But when it came to oral sex, all I was up for was for the girl to swallow. Again, if she didn't want to, that was okay, but I didn't ask her out again. (I've never forced any woman to do anthing.)
I thought when I started this policy I would have fewer dates. Nope. I was mobbed, a couple of women who had heard about me asked me out. (Women talk, and even though I was reviled by some, many women enjoyed going out knowing that we would neck and then they would suck me, usually a few times and then I would take them home.)
And I don't apoligize for being selfish, I always made certain that the lady knew about me.
After college I moved back to Miami and dated a nurse. With two nurses all I did was take them out for dinner, (the first had left the country after her schooling ended, she introduced me to a friend of her's, I wasn't a party to their conversation,) the beach and such, the usual dating stuff, and also to my apartment and do oral. Sometimes slow, but sometimes I face-had sex with them (put a pillow or two behind them, with them sitting up slightly, and sat on my knees and just pumped until I came.)
QUESTION: Is this painful or uncomfortable? And is the comfort or lack of comfort age related. I did this when I was under 35; although my wife let me do this to her many times, today my wife say's it's painful, we do it the more usual way, she get's on her knees.
So, my question: Is oral sex painful? I'm only talking about women who enjoy it, no others need apply. But for women who enjoy it and swallow, is rapidity an issue? Is age an issue?