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Do you love to give him Oral Sex or Don't You...
Do You do it because you love to pleasure him and enjoy him........
Do you do it because you feel you have to perform this duty....
Have you stopped doing this in your relationship....
78%  78%  [ 32 ]
2%  2%  [ 1 ]
19%  19%  [ 8 ]
Total Votes : 41
If there is one thing that affects many marriages and relationships, it the fact that the woman no longer gives her lover the sexual attention that she used to......It seems that this thrill that a man loves, loses it's appeal with a woman....Soon they forget to remember how they got here.....

This is a blind poll....By this I mean that anyone can come down and vote on it....We will never know who they are....Maybe some good will come out of it, and maybe it won't.....Maybe some man will smile again, as I have refreshed this long lost memory in the mind of his beloved....Maybe she will realize that growing older is not a reason for forgetting when you were young....Maybe she will read that I am older too.....And then she just may remember that age is a number only and her heart will be young as mine is.....

I have found that by looking at Porn Sex, that what I do with my husband is much different......I make love to his penis.....No quick blow jobs.......I massage with my tongue.....I should......It took me long enough to learn and get to this place in life....And, may I add, I have no intention of forgetting it....

Now for your answers......

Caroline


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replied February 11th, 2009
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i dont feel obligated to give oral sex to my boyfriend, i enjoy doing it and i will admit it too.

it keeps our relationship alive and fresh and if i dont want to do it i am not forced to do so.

but everyone is different. some think its demeaning to women..or women i have spoken to think it is..but not everyone wants to do this.

its all in what the person thinks i guess.
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replied February 11th, 2009
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I love the honesty of women that I see here....It makes us all Sisters.....This is a great site....I only wish that every City, Township or State in the world had a place where we women, could speak of our sexual life...Things we just don't know...It would only be for women....Here we could discuss these, so important matters that prey on our mind.........Life is so confusing and this subject can be one of the most stressful parts of a womans life......And may I add, can make a marriage miserable....

I have another post that I want to add to this about a man that wrote me about this subject, but it will have to wait....It is late here and time to join my husband in bed.........

xox
Caroline
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replied February 11th, 2009
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I love it!
I love giving my fiance head.......i love watching him enjoy it! it makes me feel good and i love it to.....
He has never made me do it i just take it out of his pants and do it....Razz
He loves that..Jenny
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replied February 11th, 2009
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I believe the problem is that so many of us women forget how much a man enjoys this act of love....It need not be every time, but it is just the caressing and loving that he needs as much as we need what he bestows on us.....So many women as they age, forget this important act of love....Life becomes an everyday occurrence.....Love making loses it's luster, and hot sex becomes a memory....

I believe if you ask many men what they wanted more than anything, it would be oral sex....Pretty much the same for a woman.....Yet, it is that part of us as a woman, that has to dig down and find that animal that is alive in us and kick her into gear....He needs what we give or he just might wander.......

I have noticed the great number of people that "lurk" at this site....Many of them are women....Many are reading this thread....Many are learning and many are sad about what they have not done and may have lost their man....It is to them that I write....But, thanks Jen for your comment.....

Ever looks at two dogs checking each other out?....Male would let the female sniff him all day long....Female's action pretty much the same each time....Don't go near her unless she want it......Kind of like life....eh....

Take care,
Caroline
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replied February 11th, 2009
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Np hun just wanted to give my opinion on the matter in hand Razz
xx
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replied February 11th, 2009
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I do it if/when I want to...i dont think either of us feel obligated to do anything, when we do it its because we want to do it..there are some days that i looooove doing it and some days that i'm just...eh, not really in the mood haha..but i never feel obligated to do it
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replied February 11th, 2009
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A Woman Should Never Feel Obligated But...
I agree with you on this....You should never feel obligated to perform this oh, so personal act of love......It took me years to accept not only myself, but my husband in giving oral sex....Maybe it was my Mother's influence on me or maybe an affair with my married boss that pushed this on me when I didn't want to do it....I have always felt that by keeping my eyes closed at that time, that this didn't happen with him......I wonder if other women keep their intimate moments that they want to forget, shoved in the back of their mind like I did?....

What happened with him affected me, so when my husband asked for it, I said No....I not only said no, I wouldn't let him do it to me either....I figured this way....If he does not do it to me, I won't have to do it to him.....Took me 6 months to kick that habit...I wanted oral sex....

About three years ago I was posting at a very big site....It was part of my coming out party and still learning the real facts of life....With the sexual explosion that had hit me, I needed to write...Never wrote before, but I had to write about our sexual life....My mind was on fire with facts and the words were at the tip of my fingers....Because of this happening, I had been seeking out Therapist's from all over the US...One told me I was more knowledgeable than she was and to try and find another.....I had to try and find one that could understand the "new me" and could speak to me and help me understand this new person that I had become....I met one and love her dearly....I still talk to her....Now it is about every three weeks....We just plain love each other....She teaches in California at some college....She was Past President of the ASSECT and my husband and I drove up to meet her in St. Louis three years ago June...Anyway, she got me writing...Started my own blog site....Private....Nobody allowed...Just me....Gradually, people from the site followed me...It got big and so did I....I drew so many last year that it blew my mind....Actually frightened me....I want my anonymity....So I do not advertise with any site I am on anymore, nor never will again....It is a place that I park my brains after a hot romp in bed or when I am mad at the puppies or PO if something goes wrong....It is me and I can be wild as the wind.....

Anyhow on this website I have my private email address....This was and is from a separate server so I always retain my privacy....On my site I had done this awesome blog on giving a man oral sex....I mean it was great....I usually do these after I have just left a hot romp with my husband...Needless to say, I was in the mood and the mood showed in my words....Need I say more... Wink

I opened the email and it was from a Diplomat in Washington D.C. It was a special email with special Diplomat writings on the greeting......He apologized for writing to me, but he had to thank me for what I had done for him.....He said that his wife had been reading my posts at the site I was posting at....She had followed the link that took her to my site and found the post that I done on giving your lover oral sex.....He said he had wanted her to do this to him for years.....She had performed this on him last night....He said he just had to thank me for making this part of his life complete....

This email I am sure I still have or it is possible in changing computers that it is gone....Either way, I wrote him back and thanked him for his kindness in thanking me and then hit the send mail button......What popped up stunned me....It said I was not allowed to send this person any mail back....He had some special privileged mail.....And I smile as I write this, for I have helped make this marriage happier.....

I would hope that people here do not think that all I think of is sex, as this is far from the truth....I love life....I love all the subject on this Forum...This is what drew me to it from the start and still does....Stopping here and there to write when a subject hits home....This is what I call my "helping hand".....You see, I am happy and blessed beyond belief.....I only want to help....(But I do love sex) Very Happy

Take care,
Caroline
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replied February 11th, 2009
The guy I dated before my current boyfriend was the first guy I got sexual with. He was a complete jerk and always asked me to give him head and do other things I hadn't done before. When I would say no he would pretty much push my head down and almost make me do it. So when I started dating my current guy, I never ever gave him head, I hated it, but as time went on I warmed up to it. I love making him feel good and he always returns the favor. Smile
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replied February 12th, 2009
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wow this is a heavy topic. Right Now I love doing it. I enjoy the power I feel. I love seeing the pleasure he gets. Most of all its a trust thing for me. He knows how much Im giving of myself and he appreciates it. I want to do it all the time to feel that closeness.

Im 22 and have been w/my hubby for 3 years. It took an entire year to give him oral sex. I actually went to therapy and would not move in with him for the 1st year we were together because I was scared of the duty I would have. I never touched a man either. He was really my first when it came to giving a man pleasure.

He never made me feel obligated. He never was selfish. He was so warm and loving at the times I tried and couldnt do it.

We have come a long way and now I see it as another act of my love for him.

I want all of him everywhere...hehe.

Plus he gives such good oral how could i not...hehe
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replied February 12th, 2009
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I agree, it is a heavy subject, but an important part of our life as a woman....I think for many of us it is called "hush-hush"....That way maybe it will go away...

During the first 20 years or so I never gave great oral sex....Oh, maybe if I was a couple drinks from passing out, I would shove the inhibited woman out the door and do him good....But, mostly I kept the "guarded" me safely in place in my mind....Yet, it was when he would eat me and lay naked with his feet near my face and his object of love staring me in the face, that I would weaken...The bad girl wanted to grab it and shove it down her throat, but the good girl said...You can't do that....So I didn't....However, on occasion I would shoot the good girl and let it all hang out....

But nothing like now...When I started ejaculating I lost every part of the inhibited woman that I was....Actually, I don't know her anymore...She lived, but not in my life....I am all of her that she wanted to be and make love like the God's....I am what every woman wants to do, but they hold back....Either that or I have died and gone to heaven and live in the lust for a man I adore...

I never watched any Porn before this happening....Yet, I have found such an interesting fact of life....All these women giving a man a blow job or sucking them off, are not giving them oral sex....They are doing a job....They are performing for a camera....When a woman makes love to a man and gives him oral sex she loves her passion...She loves watching his eyes on her as she stimulates each part of his sexual organ...She is good and she knows she is good....He reaps the benefit of all her love for him....

I wonder if a woman truly understands the power of love that she holds in her hands....This power of love helped me turn my husband around and off Viagra....I made him young again and he is a stud.....Without my finding this place in my life, we would not be who we are today....And may I add, I would not be writing this post...

Take care,
Caroline
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replied February 23rd, 2009
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I have to say having sex is probably my favourite thing is life. No, i'm not kidding. I'm a sucker for romance and I find it to be the most romantic thrill in life. I love to give my boyfriend oral sex. he doesn't force me but then he doesn't have to because most of the time I do it anyway. I just wonder if a woman doesn't want to do that to her husband/bf well then does she really love him. How could it not turn on a woman if she did love him.. I can honestly only imagine not liking doing it to my man if i didn't really love then. Then I could understand it feeling disgusting. I think it's an expression of love and effection really.
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replied February 23rd, 2009
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Re: A Woman Should Never Feel Obligated But...
CarolineEF wrote:
I agree with you on this....You should never feel obligated to perform this oh, so personal act of love......It took me years to accept not only myself, but my husband in giving oral sex....Maybe it was my Mother's influence on me or maybe an affair with my married boss that pushed this on me when I didn't want to do it....I have always felt that by keeping my eyes closed at that time, that this didn't happen with him......I wonder if other women keep their intimate moments that they want to forget, shoved in the back of their mind like I did?....

What happened with him affected me, so when my husband asked for it, I said No....I not only said no, I wouldn't let him do it to me either....I figured this way....If he does not do it to me, I won't have to do it to him.....Took me 6 months to kick that habit...I wanted oral sex....

About three years ago I was posting at a very big site....It was part of my coming out party and still learning the real facts of life....With the sexual explosion that had hit me, I needed to write...Never wrote before, but I had to write about our sexual life....My mind was on fire with facts and the words were at the tip of my fingers....Because of this happening, I had been seeking out Therapist's from all over the US...One told me I was more knowledgeable than she was and to try and find another.....I had to try and find one that could understand the "new me" and could speak to me and help me understand this new person that I had become....I met one and love her dearly....I still talk to her....Now it is about every three weeks....We just plain love each other....She teaches in California at some college....She was Past President of the ASSECT and my husband and I drove up to meet her in St. Louis three years ago June...Anyway, she got me writing...Started my own blog site....Private....Nobody allowed...Just me....Gradually, people from the site followed me...It got big and so did I....I drew so many last year that it blew my mind....Actually frightened me....I want my anonymity....So I do not advertise with any site I am on anymore, nor never will again....It is a place that I park my brains after a hot romp in bed or when I am mad at the puppies or PO if something goes wrong....It is me and I can be wild as the wind.....

Anyhow on this website I have my private email address....This was and is from a separate server so I always retain my privacy....On my site I had done this awesome blog on giving a man oral sex....I mean it was great....I usually do these after I have just left a hot romp with my husband...Needless to say, I was in the mood and the mood showed in my words....Need I say more... Wink

I opened the email and it was from a Diplomat in Washington D.C. It was a special email with special Diplomat writings on the greeting......He apologized for writing to me, but he had to thank me for what I had done for him.....He said that his wife had been reading my posts at the site I was posting at....She had followed the link that took her to my site and found the post that I done on giving your lover oral sex.....He said he had wanted her to do this to him for years.....She had performed this on him last night....He said he just had to thank me for making this part of his life complete....

This email I am sure I still have or it is possible in changing computers that it is gone....Either way, I wrote him back and thanked him for his kindness in thanking me and then hit the send mail button......What popped up stunned me....It said I was not allowed to send this person any mail back....He had some special privileged mail.....And I smile as I write this, for I have helped make this marriage happier.....

I would hope that people here do not think that all I think of is sex, as this is far from the truth....I love life....I love all the subject on this Forum...This is what drew me to it from the start and still does....Stopping here and there to write when a subject hits home....This is what I call my "helping hand".....You see, I am happy and blessed beyond belief.....I only want to help....(But I do love sex) Very Happy

Take care,
Caroline


Wow, a diplomat from Washington D.C. Amazing Caroline! Truely amazing!
You're an amazing woman.
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replied February 23rd, 2009
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I just looked through my old saved email...I found an email, dated 6/18/06, out of Washington D.C.....It was emails like this that kept me going in my writing and trying to help women.....These people built up my confidence in myself, to proceed in life with this endeavor...

Life is good,
Caroline
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replied February 24th, 2009
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i enjoy giving my fiance oral sex for two reaosns. one because i know it pleases him and i love seeing him satisfied. also because it give me satisfaction when i hear him moan or make him have an orgasim. it also makes me feel good about myself because he often tells me how great i am at it and that makes me happy knowing that i am good at something
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replied March 7th, 2009
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I've only done that 4 my ex. I was in love w/ him.. His swagger just took ova my soul. I was so "anti head" or that's just nasty. He really didn't care 4 it. I only did it when I felt like it. This is my take on head, don't ask me, u might just not get it!! I have neva & would neva ask a guy to lick my u know what, u do that cuz u hungry 4 it lol
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replied March 7th, 2009
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i'm a believer... :)
let's just say that i'm a believer in oral sex. for the man and for the woman. i agree with many of the comments here, and particularly share mindset with the idea that caroline voiced.

when i give my b/f oral, i am not giving him "porno blowjobs"...i'm making love to him and to his body...feeling everything and watching and reading his every single reaction to my caresses. i'm truly striving to please him in a way that no other woman could (not because she doesn't have the "equipment" or "technique", but) because i'm into it heart, body, mind, soul.

there's no forcing, or cohersion. just plain and true love for one another. and that, my friends is beautiful.

jasmine
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replied March 9th, 2009
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Re: i'm a believer... :)
Jazzy77 wrote:
let's just say that i'm a believer in oral sex. for the man and for the woman. i agree with many of the comments here, and particularly share mindset with the idea that caroline voiced.

when i give my b/f oral, i am not giving him "porno blowjobs"...i'm making love to him and to his body...feeling everything and watching and reading his every single reaction to my caresses. i'm truly striving to please him in a way that no other woman could (not because she doesn't have the "equipment" or "technique", but) because i'm into it heart, body, mind, soul.

there's no forcing, or cohersion. just plain and true love for one another. and that, my friends is beautiful.

jasmine





Yep i second that Jasmine....It is beautiful Razz..Jenny
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replied March 9th, 2009
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I absolutely love giving oral
I absolutely love giving head and I welcome every opportunity to do it. It is something that I personally enjoy and I also love the look on the guy's face when I'm doing it. This is one of my favourite sex acts.

Wendy
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replied March 9th, 2009
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yep
I agree Razz
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