Honestly, I never felt guilty for having my abortion but if you are having problems with it then you should try and address them. As for telling your daughter that's something that hopefully time will give you an answer to.

I sent you a PM too.

Sounds to me like you may want to find someone you can talk to about this. Perhaps a friend...do you have insurance and can seek professional help?

The reason I suggest this is that sometimes, women need counselling after the procedure. I'm sure you were given brief counselling where you had the aborton done, but sometimes it doesn't surface until later. It's like PTSD- for some women, this is extremely mentally and emotionally taxing.

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I'm so sorry you are having problems. I hope you can find someone who has been through what you have to talk to or like said above maybe conselling. Take care and hope you find some relief some how.

I've never known anyone to feel anything but relief after the procedure. I'm not doubting your feelings, though, just giving you another perspective.

I have know serveral women.. Even after seeking help in many cases it helps, however, the guilt still remains..

I'm sorry you are going through this.

I hope you find someone to talk with.

I worry that if there is something to forgive, it may not have been the best choice for you. If that is the case, you have to recognize that people make bad choices for themselves everyday, and you will have to accept it, grow from it, and learn from it.

Omg! I can't express how relieved I am. My situtation may be different from some and maybe that's why I feel nothing but relief. My husband and I have been seperated. I got pregnant by a "jump off" (slang term for friends w/benefits). My husband and I will be reunited soon. So, not only do I not want this guy to be my child's father, I do not want him in my life or my husband's. It was a stupid decision on my part to hook up w/him but I'm ecstatic that I got rid of any result of my dealings with him. It's over now and I can go on w/my life w/my husband.

To the OP, you gotta do what you gotta do. Don't feel bad for doing something in your best interest.

You can never be 100% certain that it was the right or wrong decision. It was something you had to do and, as hard as it is, you have to accept that it's been done, and it's in the past, and you can't dwell on it. If life's taught me one thing it's that if you dwell on something that you can't change, it makes it hard to go on with life. It makes it hard to be happy. Things happen and you can't change them now. I think that your daughter will understand because she comes from you. But I would wait until she is old enough to understand everything that happened. A child, and most of the time even a teenager, is not fully equipped mentally to grasp the whole concept. They may say they understand but they might not completely get it. As for the abortion, it was something you had to do. Never regret anything. After all, if you hadn't lived your life the way you have, you wouldn't be where you are now, and I know there are great things in your life that might not have been there if it weren't for the things done in the past. And if it was the wrong thing to do, people make mistakes. We're only human after all. We are not perfect, we mess up and fall down and in the end, we end up learning from our mistakes, not feeling guilty because we made them in the first place, but that experience gets us places. Keep your head up.

Sometimes people want you to feel the way THEY felt about their abortion, its ok to feel angry, sad, hurt, relieved, happy, or confused about it. Accept that you're grieving recognize that this may have been the wrong choice for you to make in your situation under those circumstances. You should speak with a friend you can talk to openly about it and why you feel the way you do. Many women regret their abortions, many are relieved, many are sad or guilty, many are happy and would do it again in a heartbeat; all of which is ok.

No two women are the same, don't let anyone make you feel bad about your guilt those people only make the situation worse.

It was a very difficult decision for me but I know the life I want for my children and it wasn't the life I was prepared to give I couldn't possible provide my child with the type of childhood I had. I was going to be kicked out my house I have no job and am a full time student at a university and completely depend on my parents. So it was be homeless while pregnant during the most important few weeks of my pregnancy or abort. I cried for days before I finally went and did it. I find it hard to be around babies well not be around them but partake in the joy everyone seems to feel when they see them I get a deep feeling of guilt. I am pro choice but you never know how it will affect you until it happens. It has only been a week for me so I know it will take time and prayer to heal.