Tell him that.
Tell him how you feel, that you do not want the baby around the people he hangs out with because they are bad influences.
If he wants to be in the babies life, thats great. But hearing from a friend he's sober could just be a lie to get a good word in for him.
He as to prove to you that he is sober and can be a good father.
If you dont want your baby living in the environment that he is in right now, tell him. and talk to your mom about that too. I would not want my baby living in a dead beat environment either and thats a good call for you as a mother.
But you have to be honest with him, or else things wont change.
Otherwise, if you think he wont change, tell him he can come see the baby-when you and your mom are home- when he wants to, and can show his friends pictures, but he is to come alone and can spend a few hours with you and the baby so he can bond with his child, if he wont move out of that place.

hope that was a little helpful.

I agree.
Tell him exactly what you think.
Im 15 with a 10 month old and my sons dad just now came back in his life and he was like that before.

me and my mom have been talking about it and all she says is no matter what he has the rights, which he does i understand he just makes me feel unsafe when i'm with him, nevermind letting my child be with him for a while

tell him that he will be allowed to see his child when you and your mother are present.
that way your never alone with him, and hes not fully alone with the baby.
and tell him his friends can see the baby through pictures.
if he does not like that just be honest and tell him why this is the way things are going to be.
because you dont like the living conditions hes on, that you dont want his friends around the baby, and that you need to trust that he is clean and not just hear it from a friend.

i am in the same situation. i have a 7 week old daughter. The father and i split up right before i found out i was preg. we both grew up without a good father n promised the same thing. he sells drugs has a crappy job and lives in a piece of s**t house w his friends. I cannot stand him. But he has rights so i let him come over once a week to my house and sit and watch him be with my daugher for a couple hours. Its very uncomfortable but id rather do this then have him go to court and get un supervised time with her. So he sits on one ends of my couch and holds her while i sit on the other end and watch tv until he leaves. I told him i dont want her out of my house and my mom backs me up 100%. So his family even comes to my house to see her once in a while with him but thats all you can do. I wish he wouldnt have to come see her at all because of how much i hate him but theres nothing you can do now .it is also his child and the baby needs to know their father. I cried and tried ignoring him at first but that just makes things worse so now i just deal with it because no matter what i cant change the fact that its his child. But i am going to get him for child support and if he cant get a REAL JOB and pay then he'll just go to jail and be outta my life for a little while . .

jasmini does he have court appointed rights to the child? if he doesnt you dont HAVE to let him see the child. if he lives in a piece of crap house and if he is not a good role model than i would let him take you to court, then you can get either full custody, which you have right now because single mothers get all the rights to there children, or court appointed supervised visitation. and if he doesnt get a job the way the child support people explained it to me is that they just add it up as back pay that you wont see until he gets a job, they cant penalize him for not paying if he is unemployed. im in this situation now with my 8 week old. We had the paternity test done but there is no way i will willingly allow him to take our son to his house with their 10 dogs and cats that crap on the floors. its not a clean environment or a safe one. think about it, you dont need to let this man in your daughters life unless the court says so. you dont have to let him because in the eyes of the law that is just your baby.,

i thought about just avoiding it, but he wants to be in the babies life along with all his friends. so i decided maybe just let HIM see the child, but he'd want to bring it here, bring it there. and i know court wouldn't give him any custody cause he doesn't even have a house, he sleeps at a different house every night for shelter, but his mom will fight for custody, and even though 3 of her kids are in and out of jail, i'm sure she can have the child over for a little while during the day while i'm not there to supervise, and that's what scares me. she's getting drunk and going to clubs every night leaving her 7 year old daughter home ALONE. i just don't know how to go about it without getting a worse situation thrown at me

you have full custody of the child and first custody as long as you can prove that you can take care of that child you should be able to get full custody. get proof of these allegations against him and then go talk to a state lawyer, they have public defenders. they will tell you if you have a case and then you wont have to worry about your baby growing up in a situation with a drunk grandma and a father that will not be good in the long run. I also believe in order to get custody you must have a permanent residence. All you can do is look into it, if these people are really so bad.

Thank you i will talk to him and see how things go, and if its a no-go i'll look into that. i appreciate it! (: