Do I need HRT for better health after complete Hysto at 32yo

I'm 35 yo woman, Had full Hysto 3 years ago. Never put on HRT! Went though instant menipause for a year. Then my hotflahes stopped. I have no sex drive, not even a desire. I now have a boyfriend I am active with, but still is not great. I should be at my peak in desire. But I have no desire. I don't get that tingle or feeling I used to get. But now my hotflashes have started back up again. I'm concerned about my relationship health, my bones, energy level, and I want to feel life and love again. Could this be the problem? What is the problem? I am not sure what kind of doctor to seek out. Please Help. I gotta think I should be on something since I would have still had my overies for the next 25 years. So I'm really wondering what and how I'm getting screwed (screwed with no feeling) when doc's are just saying to make sure my calcium intake is good for my bones.

But I feel like crap, I'm lost!