I really wish I could help you out but I myself haven't been put in this situation...my boyfriends parents divorced a while back and that was...well, pretty nasty...

all I can say is GOOD FOR YOU for putting your foot down and not putting up with his crap anymore...as for coping..you know the drill..only time will heal..but, i say in the meantime you gather up some gal pals and have a few girls nights, enjoy being single again and go out and have some fun! There is a nice man out there..they aren't all slime, and you deserve a great guy! So keep your head up!

I can speak for myself but my husband is divorced and has told me a lot about how it is. The other poster is right, time will heal so in the mean time you can get involved in activities that relax your mind like joining a gym or practice sports. You will be fine trust me. My husband and I we found each other online and are now happily married and expecting our first baby. I will have you in my prayers.

I divorced 9 years ago from a cheating spouse who came home and announced he had been having an affair and did not want me to love him anymore. I was shattered and couldn't understand how I was going to make it. My mother gave me this advice and I offer the same to you: Live in the moment, don't deny it, be sad, be mad, cry when it hurts and don't make any decisions. When the moment passes make good decisions and when that painful moment come calling again, again live in it. It will get less and less frequent, you will make good decisions for you and your family when you can, and yes in time it will make you stronger. She was right. I am dating now but I find myself setting boundries that I will not cross and I command a new respect for myself. I changed with the divorce and I think I am all the better for it and in the end I can reach out with compassion in a new way because I lived it. Good luck to you and hang in there.

Dear friend, Am going through the same and i know it hurts like hell... All i can say is hang on. like BattleAxe said, it will be fine after a point of time. I wish all such guys vanish from planet earth..

Betrayal is a very tough situation It is a symptom of a problem in your relationship. Consider reading the book Divorce Busters and giving it to your husband. Take a Marriage savers class together if you can. If not consider divorce. It is challenging if you do. You need support of friends and family. You must eat well, get plenty of rest and exercise. Take care of yourself and read and try to have fun. You can do it, if you must. First try to see if you can salvage what you have.

i've read a divorce guide book a month ago..the book says that men are meant to be polygamous, but they always come back to their original family. They are easily tempted to cheat from their wives and go loco with a girl they just met in a bar or mall, but at the end of the day, they think of their children and their wives who had been waiting home for dinner.

I know how painful it is to see a husband having an affair with another woman. i know it;s not easy to forgive, but if your husband is conscientious enough to mend his faults, so why not give your relationship another try? However, if he repeatedly do the same mistakes, then ask yourself if you can still tolerate his passiveness.