My wife of fifteen year has never had orgasm, she doesn't masterbate. I have preform cunilingus sometimes for fourtyfive minutes at a time. I've tried stimulation of her vagina,clitoris,anus and touching her body(legs, back, ears, head, just about every part of her body. She feels that we need to get conselling, which is fine, but my feeling she needs to learn to please herself before i can. My question is not so I can beat my cheat and say look what "I' did. I know the pleasure of my own orgasm and only want her to feel the pleasure that she deserves. I asked what feel good but it doesn't help. I'm not preasuring her to have an orgasm, I've stopped asking her how sex is and I know the composition of men and women are different where men are anytime anywhere, where women are worriers kids home etc. I don't know what to say or do anymore. I don't want sex just to be wham bam thank you maam, just for my pleasure. if there are any suggestion I would very thankful.