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April 25th, 2009
Hi, i'm married for 4 years and we have a baby 9 month old. Our difficult relationship has began after baby, I think. During pregnancy I couldn't have sex with husband. And now after baby has borned we have once in two weeks, or longer, this is one of our problems. Another is I think that he is not giving enough attention to me, he stays at his parents home for a long time every day, and then comes home, for readind, watching tv then sleeping. I work until 3:00 every day, care for child,cook and etc.,and I become nervous, tired,then when he comes I ask him to do something we begin to argue and it repeats everyday. And also, his parents are our neighbors(in the same building), they interfere in everything, we argue for this too.
Now I don't know what to do, how to explain my feelings,we loved each other so much before.Now I don't feel anything but angry to him. Sometimes I feel like I should get divorced with him, but I'm afraid for my baby to be without family.
What should I do, may be it's depression I have. Please help me!
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shoogar
replied April 25th, 2009
lililya,
I am sorry that things are not working out for you and your husband at the moment. I know that having a young family can be very difficult and life can really be challenging. Especially finding time for you and also together as a family.

Happiness begins on the inside. Take some time to look and reflect upon yourself. Try and spend some time to appreciate youself as an individual and also as a part of the family. We so often become "lost" with everything that happens in our busy days.

By taking the time to try and improve your own personal happiness it quite often rubs off on everyone else.

Lastly don't forget to talk to your husband and tell him how you feel and how you want things to be better. See a marriage guidance counsellor if you can.
Don't give up.
Seek inner peace. Happiness starts from within you.
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lililya
replied April 25th, 2009
Thank you for your message. I need some advise like this.
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jamalismyname
replied April 25th, 2009
Things sound difficult. Your husband should be spending his time with you now and not his parents.

It takes three to make marriage work...God is number three. Daily prayer is one advice I would give you.

On a practical note, you two need to set a "date night" every week and go out just the two of you for quality time together. Your relationship needs nurturing. Tend it like a precious flower.

God Bless.
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starship33
replied April 27th, 2009
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he could be spending time over there because he's avoiding you....dont want to argue. is he a moma's boy, tell his mom everything and allow his family to get into yall business.
you have to have a serious conversation with him on a good day (good mood) hoping not to spike an argument...choose your words wisely. if you separate from him your child should always have a family. some relationship isnt worth saving. pray
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