difference between orgasm and cumming ? (Page 1)

Different people seem to have different ideas as to what is meant by these expressions.
some women say they`ve cum, when they produce lubricating liquid from their vaginal glands.
Orgasm in both sexes is when you reach your climax and your muscles pulsate. In a Man this is usually combined with ejaculation of seminal fluid.
For a woman, it can be accompanied by disharging fluid, known as squirting, in some women.
But for most women their climax , orgasm, is accompanied by the vaginal muscles contracting rhythmically 6 or 7 times.
this is an involuntary response.

thankyou for the reply. just to clarify... what if a woman discharges fluid when she's turned on in sex but does not pulsate climax orgasm then is this squirting still?

if it comes out with some force , usually from the uretha (Pee hole)
then it can be called squirting yes.
When some ladies say they have cum, they just mean because their vagina is wet, but that is lubricating fluid and comes out slowly from the Bartholin's glands which are situated on the inner lips of the vagina.
During sexual excitement, vaginal discharge becomes very profuse because two glands near the vaginal opening (the Bartholin's glands) secrete additional slippery mucus, which acts as a lubricant for intercourse.

some women can squirt a lot. A porn star called Cytheria , can squirt about 1 or 2 feet sometimes(up to 60 cmtrs) but that is most unusual.
most ladies dont squirt, but many do.
Usually it is some form of sexual stimulation that builds them up to a climax , and then it gushes out in a quick release. so it is a type of orgasm for some women, cos after they squirted , their tension is released and they want to stop then and rest to recover. But like with multiple orgasms, some ladies like to keep going , and squirt again.
But after about 3 times they have no liquid left to squirt out anymore.So then they finished.

If you have lubrication coming out without the orgasm that is perfectly normal. Its just being wet and if it comes out in a gush that was just a muscle spasm in your vagina, but not one strong enough for an orgasm. At least that is how I was explained what it was.

And yes, some women can indeed "cum" in a manner much the same way a man can.

during sex, there has been a few times i've felt like i'm about to pee, and so had to hold it to not freak out my partner. so ive started going to the bathroom before, so as to avoid this, but it still happens. would this be squirting then?

Just let it go! It's not peeing. It's not going to come out of your urethra. When I have an orgasm that includes "squirting" I still have to pee when we get done. I would just let your partner know what is going on down there so he knows what's going on if it does happen. My husband made it his mission to make me "squirt" so I just let myself go and it's one of the best things I could have done for our sex life! I hope this helps.

lots of women when they're just about to orgasm feel like they're going to pee, then they orgasm. you will not pee though don't worry lol. that feeling happens to me every time it's normal. i get that feeling first with a fast heart beat, then a hot shiver type thing travels up my body and finally violent orgasmic contractions

my wife gets that to the vagina shakes in shivers

what is the different my best friends always have sex with her bf without a condom and she doesnt get pregnant because she says tht he doesnt cum in her bt he still gets wet . what is the differents i dont get it?

scairlilgirl, Your best friend is taking a HUGE chance an will become pregnant if she does not stop this.

In a man, cuming is the slang term for ejaculating. Ejaculation is when his semen that contains the sperm comes out of him. This happens when he gets his orgasm.

She is trusting him to have sex with her but pull out before he gets his orgasm. This is dangerous as he can not always control his orgasm and it is unnatural for him to pull out. What he wants to do is just orgasm while he is inside her. One of these days he is going to misjudge it and ejaculate/cum inside her vagina.

When a boy gets sexually aroused (he gets an erection), he has a gland that secretes a fluid called pre-ejaculate or pre-cum. This fluid prepares his penis for the semen and sperm that will follow, to safely pass through. It cleans out any impurities, old sperm and urine left over inside his penis. This fluid also lubricates his penis.

While he is aroused, he cannot pee as there is a valve that close his bladder off until after his erection goes down. His semen with the sperm in will also not come out until his orgasmic contractions will make it come out. So this pre-cum is responsible for his wetness.

So she is taking two chances - She will get pregnant because he will make a mistake, and she is endangering her own health as she can get infections and STDs.

PLEASE ask her to act like an adult if she wants to have sex like adults. She should protect herself before it is too late. She has a lot to loose when she gets pregnant, he not so much.

If a woman says "I am cuming", it means that she is having and orgasm and it is normally done to tell her partner to continue what he is doing and not stop. No ejaculation, leaking, gushing, peeing or squirting is implied in this term for a woman.

Take care!

I am a man, and just like a woman a man also gets lubricated it is not premature ejaculation or pre cum yes for some men it can contain sperm depending how far they went with they activity or if they try to hold they orgasm, and yes a man can hold they orgasm because we know when we are going to bust. I have that lubricator coming out of me when I am fully arouse, and I also practice the pull out method and I only have one daughter because I plan for her. So in conclusion I have to say yes practice safe sex always but the pull out method works

There is only one fluid that lubricates your penis and that is pre-ejaculate or pre-cum from your Cowper's gland. There are no other fluids there.

A woman gets wet from plasma being squeezed from her vaginal walls due to the walls filling with blood. You do not have vaginal walls. You can call that fluid whatever you want, but that does not change the fact that it is what is commonly called pre-cum or pre-ejaculate.

Pre-cum does not contain sperm, and it is not semen. It can push out sperm left over in your urethrafrom a previous ejaculation, but the chances are not good for that unless you do something stupid.

The danger of pull out is not pulling out in time. Staying in for too long and then ejaculating inside her. When you pull out in time, you are safe (unless you are stupid and doing it shortly after you ejaculated). Many men cannot control their ejaculations. This is called premature ejaculation and it is the biggest sexual issue that men suffer from today.

Try using the word might a lot more because sentences like quote"she will get pregnant and he will make a mistake" end quote tend to make it seem like that is what is really going to happen. Me and my partner have been having ex without condoms since we started and we've had no problems with the pull out method.Thank you for your very intriguing answers, I've never read something so rightly and wrongly written by people with out doctorates in sexual interpretation.

Not to be rude but are you on birth control? And are you sure one of you aren't infertile? To have sex without any sort of protection is just stupid. Don't get me wrong I've done it. Was on the pill and still got pregnant. Although my son is a blessing never wanted to be a mother but he changed my life. Good luck

cum comes outta the vagina and squirting comes outta the pee hole,but its not pee

I've had an orgasm, and I have cummed, is it normal that I haven't "squirted?"

schuyler_rayne, It is very normal to secrete a white sweet fluid (prostrate fluid containing PSA) from your pee hole when you orgasm. This comes from the female 'prostrate', the same thing that formed the male prostrate forms a 'female prostrate' around the urethra in about 20% of women (20% according to the latest MRI and autopsy research). At most, this is the same amount as a male ejaculation (it is after all the same thing).

The Skene's glands (2 holes next to the pee hole in your vulva and the Bartholin glands (2 holes next to your vaginal entrance in your vulva) also secretes some fluid in most woman just before you orgasm.

In some women there are more fluid. This fluid can come from the Skene's glands and the bladder and it can shoot, squirt and gush out.

think you mean 'prostate' and not 'prostrate'! lol totally different meaning.

My fiance, says that she cums, when she starts to shiver but I don't see any kind of fluids coming out, n I stick one finger to see if anything is in there n its dry, why is that??

Men ejaculate fluids, that is how your sperm impregnate a woman. In a woman, ejaculating fluid does not serve any purpose and only a few women does that.

When she says she cums, she means that she is having an orgasm, not ejaculating like you do.

Do women enjoy n orgasm better than cuming or what do u think n why after they say that when they came, they get dry??

Hi I like to masturbate I can orgasm but I can't cum my cum is always around my g-spot and it will never come out. It actually comes out naturally like if I'm walking in the mall the fluid comes out. Is this normal?

hi first time i comment, when i'm with my girl intimately i know she cums, but i dont know if she actually has an orgasm. right after she cums i have to stop because she gets the feeling that she'll pee all over the place. i really want to satisfy my girl so how do i know if she's reaching her orgasm, or just cumming, if i have to stop right after she cums?

I understand that girls lubricate/get wet when doing anything sexual that turns them on, but I orgasmed for the first time the other day and I'm trying to understand what exactly cum is? From my understanding lubrication and coming aren't the same things?

So what is the difference between cum and lubrication?

TrackStar, Congratulations on your first orgasm!!

There are a number of fluids that comes from your genitals.

* When you get aroused, blood will rush into your genitals and they will swell up. Arousal fluid forms inside your vagina when blood plasma is squeezed from the cells in your vaginal lining because of all the swelling. This is called arousal fluid.

* The other fluid you will experience is cervical mucus. It is fluid that comes from your cervix. It changes throughout your cycle. From dry to sticky to creamy to very wet, clear and stretchy. You will see this on toilet paper or your panties throughout your cycle.

When a woman say she is cuming, it means she is having an orgasm. Plain and simple, just having an orgasm.

* Most women will eject a few drops of fluid from the Bartholin glands (2 small glands next to the vaginal entrance)just before orgasm.

* Some women will eject a lot of fluid during sex or masturbation. This is called female ejaculation. This is emitted from the pee hole and can be pee, fluid from the female Skene's glands ('female prostrate' glands) or a mixture of the two. Most woman will just have a drop or two that dribble out.

You are not abnormal if you do not female ejaculate. The vast majority of women do not ejaculate.

Take care!

Hey Shagy,
Tell your girlfriend she is missing an amazing feeling and to not stop you. I am 45 years old and it took me all these years to meet a man who could allow me to have that feeling. it's not all the man, women need to relax and be comfortable with their partner.....but she needs you to reassure her she won't pee and as matter of fact she will be sooooo happy! I spend the majority of the last 25 years faking orgasm. Didn't even know that their was such a thing as "squirting". It is the most vulnerable thing that I ever felt. The bed was so wet I thought he came. He had to tell me that was me! It was amazing feeling for me I just thought he came at the same time, but he didn't. All me! My boyfriend had to convince me it was "normal" Now one year later I like it soooo much we have sex every day....some time 2 or 3 if there is time.....Never would I initiate sex before I met him..now I am all over him! I have to stop and remember to reward him on some days. Although, he says me enjoying it turns him on....but ever once in a while I make sure he is extra spoiled. Who says a women's sex drive decreases has never had a squirting organism! So keep trying....it will pay off for her

Aa12 I have that same problem. I even asked my best friend the same question. Because I noticed I always had that white fluid when I exercise or walk anywhere. Now the trouble is my bf wants me to let me know everytime I cum. Though now the trouble is, I can't tell because I can orgasm but not cum. Idk if I'm just weird. I had an ex, go down on me and told m I came and I didn't even now. Can someone answer this question? It would be really helpful!!!!