At the beginning of my relationship ago my boyfriend told me he had once had had white lumps that he had to be treated for by a doctor that he got from his ex girlfriend.

I asked him if this meant he was carrying an HPV/herpes virus which he could pass to me and we would have virus for life with recurrent attacks of genital warts. For me it is an std so far removed from anything I could imagine actually contracting that when he said no I believed him.

We have had language barriers as in Swedish he referred to another name I am not familiar and he did not know what i was talking about - but absolutely assured me it could not be anything that he carried or put me at risk. As I loved him and trusted him -and assumed he would be careful to know the full facts of what he had (he had been my friend for year before), then I trusted that it was not this and was something small that as he assured he just needed cream and it healed.

However two years on I finally came across the equivalent English word I had not heard before - Condylom which fits with the swedish Kondylom he had been telling. i googled it - and I am shellshocked - it is HPV/warts

I am truly devastated - I cannot go through life with genital warts - it is repulsive to everything I feel about life.

My boyfriend keeps shouting at me that I am mixing the consequences of Condylom with herpes and it is nothing serious and you can get rid of it and it is not dangerous like herpes.

He doesn't seem to understand - I don't care which is worse, they're both horrible STDs to catch when I could have had a vaccine if he had been mature enough to think of other people and get the facts at the beginning - I don't want herpes and I definitely don't want warts.

We are now in a huge battle of which is worse - but he doesn not understand I am devastated I may have genital warts. I am sorry for those who have it and get on with it - but to me now it is disgusting, I can't bear the thought of this being in my life.

I am on holiday and back in Uk to test - but in the meantime these screaming fights with my boyfriend telling me warts condylom is completely different from herpes and is not the serious one - no links to cancer, not recurring and curableas of immune system, when everything I google is exactly what i though it is. I am worried about everything and I can't believe my boyfriend has put me in this position knowing he had this and now does not get my anxiousness.

PLEASE can you tell me the difference between the two (although it is HPV I am more concerned about - but so I can explain to him) and the risks and the nature of the virus at best and at worst - so I can have some factual preparation before my test that can't be undermined by my boyfriend.

I am so confused and I feel I am being bullied whenever I bring up any facts I know - it is like a court case to prove it is serious what he has put me in, but I of course want him to be right so I do not have this.

All I know is he said he had tiny white dots on his penis when he had it and so did his girlfriend.

Please do answer - this shouting about facts has gone on for a week and we are on holiday and can't get to a doctor yet adn everything on the internet contradicts- especially with strains and 70 per cent having ti but being all their life. Which will it be for my boyrfiend if he has had symptoms already.

Thank you so much