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catonia

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Diagnosed with Aspergers Posted: 04-03-08 14:22pm


I'm 15 and i was diagnosed with Aspergers syndrome,as i've shown symptoms of highly functioning Autism since i was 2. I struggle in every day situations and school situations quite badly,therefore,my mum keeps telling me i'm dumb and backward and she also says that i'll never be able to do anything.I'll just be a big baby in a care home when i grow up. PLEASE TELL ME SHE'S JUST FRUSTRATED!!!

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Posted: 04-03-08 14:47pm


That is a terrible thing for a mother to say and I am sorry that you have to go through that. You can be anything that you set your mind to be. I have an 11 year old son who has asperger syndrome and I know he struggles but I love him just the same if not more than I would if he were considered to be normal. People with asperger syndrome can live a relatively normal life there are doctors and lawyers who have asperger syndrome. So, no matter what your mom says that is negative never stop believing in yourself you can do anything you want to do. Keep your head up!!

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Posted: 04-04-08 13:05pm


Hey, dont get discouraged. I think that you are right its frustration. she probably doesnt know how to handle it--no mother wants anything to be wrong with her baby. ----keep going at it. you can get through this. you really can do anything that you set your mind to. beleive in yourself. you can do this.

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Posted: 04-10-08 08:12am


Yes,i think she is just frustrated. She wanted me to be a perfect sociable,intelligent,confident,prom queen type. That's what she prayed for any way.She just feels so hard done by because she didn't get that.I think she needs to consider herself lucky that i wasn't born with no limbs or crippled,or Downs syndrome etc...

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Posted: 04-10-08 13:03pm


exactly---she should realize that things could be a lot worse----she could have not had you at all or had you and lost you

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hi Posted: 06-09-08 15:14pm


I have aspergers syndrome and was very ill as a baby, my mum has stuck by me. My mum sometimes gets very stressed with me, one of the reasons for my dad going was that he couldnt accept that i was never going to be a confidents sports playing person and she didnt accept that! i think your mum have the same thing as my dad, thinks that your not what your supposed to be, but in the end you are who you are and she should believe in you. It really helps to have somebody behind you and if she cant accept who you are whats thepoint?

catonia

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Posted: 06-16-08 04:25am


It's just that she had to take me to school until i was 14. I can't go out on my own,socialise in school,speak to people,do my school work,walk around school without a TA,play games and i even walk like a physically disabled person. I'm so dependant.Is this linked with AS?

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hi again Posted: 06-16-08 10:31am


lol my mum still takes me, i can do most of those things without a TA, i think dependancy is linked to AS, i was very dependant on someone until recently but they cruelly ditched me. Its good when the support is there because when its gone it feels weird. I was told by my pediatrician that AS is really bad around early teens ( 13, 14,15,16 etc) and it gets better after, you start to catch up. In fact mum says everyone will think that im just eccentric, not autistic by the time im 25. P.S autism has a lot of advantages too!

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Posted: 06-16-08 15:07pm


Catonia- nice to see you around here again Sometimes AS can make people seem dependent. Are you getting any kind of support- therapy, treatment of any kind? If being dependent at certain things bothers you, there are therapies/treatments that can help you become more independent. There are even physical therapies aimed directly at helping people with AS walk and play more normally. It's important to remember that AS does not intellectually impair you. It may make some aspects of life more challenging, but you have all the same potential as anyone else. You can improve the aspects that are difficult right now- ask for help!

catonia

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Posted: 06-17-08 04:06am


No,i don't see a specialist or anything. The kids used to tease me because my mum used to have to take me on the bus to school and everywhere.They used to call me Mongel and retard etc... Every time i used to walk past kids from other schools,they'd point and giggle and walk crooked and pull faces saying i was a dumb spastic.The thing is,you can actually tell by looking at me (I used to get told).I thought people with AS were supposed to look normal.

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Posted: 06-17-08 10:38am


Yeah, but sometimes other conditions come along with AS and may effect you physically. Could you ask your mom if she could take you to see someone?

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Posted: 06-17-08 15:06pm


yes please do try to get your mom to take you to see someone. it will make things better for both of you

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Posted: 06-17-08 15:42pm


Anyway, you sound quite intelligent. It's too bad that kids always have to point out each other's flaws.

catonia

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Posted: 06-18-08 11:41am


Thanks.I just tend to read about stuff a lot. I have mild Dyspraxia. This is what i look like: http://ehealt hforum.com/health/topic120118_40.html my pic is there somewhere. Just giving you an idea of what i mean't. I can't really decide whether i truly do look "different".It's just a lot of kids in my last schools thought i did.

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Posted: 06-18-08 11:54am


I think you look pretty! And I'm not just saying that. Sometimes, well, most of the time, kids will pick up on small differences in the way you act (for kids with aspergers, that usually means small differences in the way you interact with other people) the kids can't quite put their finger on what is different about you, so they make fun of something easy, like the way you look. (Who isn't self-conscious about how they look?) Does that make sense? My little brother is the same way- -he's quite good looking, but gets made fun of because he acts a little differently than most kids, even if it's not really obvious.

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Posted: 06-19-08 04:59am


I have a 13 year old son with AS. I wasn't quite sure how to understand why he did the things he did in the manner he did them; and I didn't understand what AS truly was until I read up on it. I love my son the way he is. He is a smart child and he is creative. AS, to me, is just like other people having asthma or allergies, some have it and some don't. You have to understand it to know it.

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Posted: 06-20-08 01:14am


Hi, Don't despair All of us with AS are different. I am 44 yrs old with it, and my 18yr old son had it too. I have dyspraxia also, but thanks to 10 yrs of martial arts, I'm a black belt who teaches kids with AS or coordination issues. My advice to you, is have your mum get you involved in an activity that helps with coordination, I promise it will help. The other stuff, you will learn to cope as time goes on. You will always be different, so what.... variety is the spice of life. There are more people out there waiting to support you than cut you down. Stay away from those who don't accept you. Your mother is just frustrated, becuase she sees you hurting and doesn't know how to stop it. I know, I've been there with Myles, my son. I will say a prayer for you tonight.