zoelee,
If you are on the methadone from a clinic for management of opioid addiction, then there are options for you. You will have to notify your OB that you are on the methadone. It is possible to wean you off of the methadone over time, so that you do not experience any withdrawals (which can be very stressful for the fetus). This way, the baby will not be addicted to opioids when it is born.
But, you will have to live with not being on the opioids. Are you ready to stave off the cravings that you will probably have? This is a psychological problem, and there is help for that also, through counseling. Nothing is impossible. All you have to do is ask for the help.
In some cases, where patients are on opioids for control of chronic pain, they are able to remain on the opioids for the whole pregnancy. Sometimes their babies will show signs of opioid dependency upon birth, but the pediatricians are aware of the potential problem and deal with it at the time. The baby can be weaned off of the opioids, just like an adult, without having to go through withdrawals. But, this is usually only done in cases where the mother HAS to have the pain medication to be able to function.
Again, you have options available to you. Even patients who are on heroin or are getting pain medication off the street have options. You just have to ask for the help. And again, if you are in a program to help with opioid addiction, you should not be afraid of the authorities. You are in the program to get help.
But, your OB is going to have to know. He/she will help you with the weaning off of the methadone, if that is what you want to do.
Again, you are going to have to ask for some help. It sounds like your husband may just not want this pregnancy. You are going to have to have a heart to heart talk with him. You are going to have to make sure that you both want and will care for the baby after it is born. It sounds like he is trying to “guilt trip” you into having an abortion. Again, the two of you really need to talk, and if necessary go to the OB together to discuss options.
Good luck to you.