I suggest you have a simple cheek swab done on the baby when she is born before you fill out the birth certificate. She'll be here before you know it and you'll be able to find out fast, easy, and without risk while you cuddle up to her and love on her.

In the mean time, if the guy was a relative stranger, you might want to find out his full name, permanent address, and other contact information to tuck away just in case you need it.

unfortunately i have no idea how to contact him..or his last name. And I am not following through with the pregnancy if it's his...

The baby is an innocent. She is a wonderful little person already completely devoted to you. Many people don't have feelings of love or attachment to their children until they see them on the outside, so it is OK and normal for you to feel worried or even angry right now. It might help you to have a sonogram to see the joy and life inside you. Her heart's been beating for 2 weeks already, this week she's going through her biggest growth spurt until puberty, and in a few days you'll be able to see her hair.

As you know, it is most likely your boyfriend's child. Go forward assuming that. Have your baby. Do a cheek swab when she's born. In the slim chance she is not his, you can make an adoption plan if you want. You can choose an open, semi-open, or closed adoption, meaning you can have regular contact, pictures and letters, or no contact. You get to choose if you are ready then to parent and how much involvement you want in her life. Your boyfriend might not care about genetics and might be thrilled to love you and her and raise her as his own. A lot can happen in 8 months. You have so many things to worry about and so many different possibilities. Just take today.

Make sure you are on vitamins, start thinking about names (I just discovered the baby name forum here earlier and it is so much fun!), and take it one day at a time. Today you get some rest, tomorrow you go to church or for a walk in the park, Monday you call the doctor for a prenatal vitamin prescription, etc. You'll get there, and if you need help in the process, there are plenty of people I could get you in touch with in the mean time to help.

I'm confused..I should be only 4-5 weeks along, according to my HcG levels. That means I probably conceived in the week of Aug. 3-- Aug. 9, which would be 5 day old sperm for the one guy (still possible) or fresh sperm if it's my boyfriend. My boyfriend is black...the other guy is white...I'm pretty sure it'll be easy to tell whose it is when he or she is born. However, I am not putting my family or his family through a pregnancy unless I know for sure. So my issue is more about finding out now. It is still possible to do a medication abortion, but I want to keep it if it's my boyfriend's... Genetics are everything...I'm really just trying to nail down my possible conception date or method of determining exactly how far along...

You conceive in week 3. That means you are now in week 7, as of last Friday.

As a person who was raised by a man who wasn't my genetic father, and a mother of an adopted child, I would say genetics are nothing, as would my daughter. Somehow, it isn't so important when you have a child to care for in your arms and no longer have time to worry about what could be because you are living what is. You have a lot going on inside of you, physically and emotionally, right now.

At least you have one thing you don't need to analyze to the point of sickness: according to your calculations, this child is your boyfriend's and you have no reason to doubt that at this time. You and he can start talking about names and discussing if you will circumcise if it is a boy.

If you were to base it purely on probability the chances are much more in favor of your boyfriend being the father. People don't realize this (especially when it happens accidentally) but conception is actually quite picky and requires very specific things to be in alignment (ovulation, potency and health of the semen, etc.) People who plan pregnancy can realize very quickly that it actually can be quite difficult.

Average ejaculate contains 60 million sperm per milliliter and the average quantity of ejaculate ranges from 2mL to over 6mL! That means potentially hundreds of millions of sperm were released into you when you had unprotected sex. Compare that to the protected sex where you very likely had 0 released into you.

You may find these figures about condoms interesting:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Condom#Causes _of_failure

Basically, the chances that you had contact with ANY semen whatsoever while using the condom is less then 2%. With your boyfriend there is a 100% chance that there was contact with 100 million sperm.

Also, sperm has a pretty short lifespan. In the environment they are fertile for a very short amount of time. In a moist environment it would be longer but unlikely that they could remain fertile for anymore then 24 - 48 hours. They are more likely to not survive even a few hours. 5 days is too long. But, determining the date of conception is not exact and the dates are pretty close. There is no way right now to be absolutely certain but the odds play very highly in favor of your boyfriend being the father.

you going to love your kid no matter what