Desperate to Get Pregnant

ARE YOU KIDDING ME?? YOUR A BABY!!!!! Baby sitting is not the same as having your own!!!!!! Your not there when they are sick, getting up in the middle of the night etc!!!! Not having a dad has nothing to do with you wanting a baby. And you cant afford to pay for a baby just from babysitting. Your 16, baby sitting job, probably under ur moms ins. and in school...and probably living at home!!!!!!! Do you have a steady bf?? even if you do your being selfish trying to bring a baby into this world with no way to care for it!!!!!!! THINK THINK!!!!! And obviously if your trying that hard to get preg. and hiding it....you are VERY immature!!!!

Ok, so those of you who want a baby: babysitting is NOT like having children. It doesn't even come close. Try talking to some of the teen moms in the teen pregnancy forum and the parenting forums. They are TIRED. It's an all day and all night job, and then if you're a single mom, somehow you have to throw a job in there too, and guess what? That's time spent WITHOUT your baby.

Having a baby means that you will have to take care of someone for 20 years, give or take a couple years. You will have to fork out money that you don't even know where it comes from, just to feed them and change smelly diapers that cost a load of money. Sure, you can get government aid, but that's not going to cover it. You think your life is miserable and tied down now, just wait til you can't go to the movies or out with your friends because you don't have a penny to afford the stuff they do, or you can't find or afford a baby sitter when you can't take the baby on that newest ride at the amusement park.

Babies and kids require unconditional love. Are you ready to give up your WHOLE life to that? Being a parent doesn't end when the kid moves out either, and if you don't think so, ask your parents.

Think about the long term consequences. Having babies is for responsible adults. If you still want to have a baby and really want go through all that stuff and more, then that's when you are ready to be a parent.

mominashoe...you said that very nicely!

It makes me really sad to think that most on the TTC forum desperately want a baby....and this "kid" will probably end up pregnant first. I feel so cheated! I married my highschool sweetheart, went to college, found my dream job, bought a house, and now we want a baby, and are having trouble. Why is it that every 16 year old can get pregnant, but I can't??


Morena...
It is sad that you did not grow up with a father, but that is no reason to have a baby. Just to fulfill your selfish need for someone to love, you are willing to raise your child poor (because you will be) and without a father (because he will leave you). Hmmmm....sounds like you will do to your child, what was done to you. Do you want your child to grow up without a father? Also, do you want your child to grow up WANTING everything that you can't afford? Do you know how horrible it will be to not be able to afford a birthday gift for your child?

Get a part-time job, get some friends, get a LIFE! Do not subject a helpless baby to a life of poverty just because you "WANT" one.

This is sadly what is wrong with our young generation today. They think that having a baby will make them feel loved and that they will always have someone to love them.
NEWS FLASH!!
Those kids grow up (even faster these days) and they will come to a point where they hate their parents just as we did as teenagers.

You knew what it was like growing up without a father, so why would you subject a baby to that kind of life too? It's being hypocritical.

I was 21 when I had my first child and it is still hard. I am with her father and we both have full time jobs. We HAVE to work to support her. I never see her anymore. I am left lonely all the time because all I do is work, work, work. Yeah, there's the weekends but once that comes I am almost too tired to even shower, let alone play horsie and run around at the park (even though I will do it anyway just to see a smile on her face).

Government aid doesn't even cover diaper expenses. Sure, it buys formula, but babies quit drinking that within a year, but they need diapers for sometimes 3 years.

Doctors are expensive.
Gas is expensive.
DAY CARE is hella expensive-I spend more on that than I do food for 3.
I see the people I work with more than my own child.
By the end of all the expenses we have for the baby, I can barely feed myself sometimes. It is a constant struggle.

Not to mention you won't be able to get a decent job to support this child until you've graduated at LEAST high school. Even those jobs aren't enough.

This is a horrible idea.

Not to mention the entrapment of this unsuspecting father-to-be. How can you basically steal sperm to satisfy your own personal wants? That is so extremely selfish and very immature.

Babysitting is NOTHING like being a full-time mother. You have to wake up every 3 hours to feed the baby. There is SO much going on. I have cried myself to sleep MANY nights worrying about how I was going to pay rent and keep the lights on.

You want something of your own to take care of and nurture..... try getting a dog or a cat. Go buy your self a nicely bred one, pay for it's food and take it to the vet for shots...give it love and care. Might fill the gap for you.

As a pet owner....I would not suggest that. They require a lot of work, and frankly, Morena is too immature for that.

I would start small...like a pet rock

Its sad that I have been trying to get pregnant with my husband for 3 years and here is a 16 year old that will most likely be pregnant by the time she is 17. Children are not like babydolls and you cant just give them back. At 16 you can find very few jobs. And do you really know how much it costs to provide for a baby? You would have to work day and night at McDonalds to support a child. You need to try a dog or cat first. They need to be walked everyday and fed and bathed. Try that and try paying for vet bills, food, flea and tick medicine, collars and leashes, then see if you are ready. Plus sweetheart, you might want to wait until marriage. Dont be like your mother. I was in the same shoes as you, living without my father in my life, but look how hard your mother is probobly stuggleing, but then again you may be too young to see it. Think first.

personally i dont think that you should tell that girl thing like she will struggle. Yes most likely she will but she feels she's ready. I'm not saying as soon as you think that youre ready to go out and get pregnant but....

if you feel your ready then you may just be ready but what you should wait for is to graduate high school. and you are in a committed(sp) relationship were you know even if you two do not stay together you will still be friends. meaning you have to be friends before anything else. Trust i know how you feel i've been waiting a child since middle/high school. and i still dont have one. but now that i have graduated and my boyfriend/best friend is about to graduate college im now tryin to get pregnant because we both feel that we are ready to support our child, my dream, my wish. just make sure you child will always have and dad you and i both know what it feels like to go with out one. good luck and best wishes

Hey im 18, JUST turned 18 and Pregnancy is HARD! I was like you... except married and we arent together anymore.

*its expensive, do you have a job
*its hard on your body, mind, and heart!
*are you with someone now, how long have you been together?

Grow up first, got to parties, have fun... make new friends. Most of my friends....GONE! No one our age wants to hang out with a big fat pregnant girl who cant do what there doing. Trust me its worth it to wait. (DONT get me worng I love my son already, but its heard and he isnt even here yet!)