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Q: desperate for baby , but I'm only 15
asked by: LaLaLaLisa on June 4th, 2008
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I've been broody since I was about 13, and I still think about having a family nearly all the time. I've been sensible so far, got the contraceptive implant, taken my mind off the subject, etc, but now I don't think I can take it any longer. My long term boyfriend just found out he is going to be an uncle, and I am desperatly envious of his sister-in-law, everytime I see her I breakdown inside.

I know it isn't all playing with Baby, and pushing the pram. I babysit a lot for my family, and I have experienced night feeds, nappy changes, crying, but I love every minute of it, and crave that feeling for myself.

I want the best for my baby when I have one, so I am waiting until I have finished at least High School, and perhaps University, and I'm also waiting until I have my own place and my boyfriend has a steady job. I am trying to be sensible, but some people are just meant to be mothers, and I'm one of them.

I want to know if anyone can give me advise on coping through this and waiting until I'm financially ready ('cause I am emotionally ready). I really need some advice, I think I'm going to go insane!
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manuftw82
replied on June 4th, 2008
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You sound like you have a great head on your shoulders! Keep that up! I've wanted a baby since I was 11, I'm almost 19 now. I definitely know where you have been and where you will be. I still want a baby really bad, I am on the pill though and I know better. Are you a member of any clubs or sports? My soccer "career" DEFINITELY helped me through my baby fever beyond a shadow of a doubt. It kept me busy playing 8 times a week and I knew that if I ever got pregnant I'd have to give it up, most likely forever.

And another thing to think about, you're only 15. Boyfriends at this age usually don't last. Obviously there are some exceptions to the rule but for the most part they don't. So what happens if you do get pregnant, he freaks out, and splits? You can't possibly support yourself and you don't have a great education either at your age. Wouldn't it be great to wait until you're engaged or married and at least one of you has a stable job?

And also babysitting and all that is TOTALLY different. I took care of my little cousins all the time when I was around 11-14 years old. I would get up with them in the middle of the night, wake up at 6 with them, take walks with them, feed them, play with them. But the great thing about that is when they cry, YOU CAN GIVE THEM BACK! When you have a real baby you can't do that. It's yours. You can't give it back when you want to sleep or eat. It's YOUR responsibility, not your parents or anyone elses. It's yours. You can't go out with your friends as often as you like, you can't have alone time with your boyfriend as much as you'd like to. It's no longer the two of you, it's the three of you.

Looking back, I'm sooooo glad that I waited. I'm glad that in 3 years I'll be an RN and be able to support myself. I'm glad that I got to go to my prom and my graduation. I'm glad that I can dorm at college and finish on time. I'm glad that I have money to pay for my car and not a baby. My car IS my baby. I'm glad that I don't have to deal with child support and custody issues. I'm glad that I can still work at a fun job even if it pays minimum wage. I'm glad that I'm not responsible for another life. and I'm REALLY glad that I can still be a kid sometimes even if I'm going to be 20 in a little over a year.

Just think about the good things you have instead of the things you don't have. Eventually when the time is right you WILL get pregnant and have a family and it will be that much better and you'll be glad you waited too.

Now that I wrote a novel................Have a great day =)
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krystineM
replied on June 4th, 2008
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i think your doing a good job so far.
your not taking action to your thinking of having a baby now, your waiting till the time is right and till you have things together.
which is great, because your baby deserves the best when you do have one.
i think you should just keep doing what your doing.
finish high school, go to university, get a good job, your own place, money aside for your little one then plan a baby.
you'd enjoy the whole experience of being pregnant and a mother if you do wait, it not only benefits your baby, but you as well.

there's more to having a kid than being emotionally ready, you have to be financially read, and maturely ready, being only emotionally ready -showing love, attention etc. wont put food on the table or clothes on your baby's back.

You said you want the best for your baby, and what your doing by planning to finish high school and university and waiting till you have your own place and being financially stable are all things that are best for your baby.

I think everyone goes through this, but its good your waiting. Sometimes boyfriends leave when they find out their girlfriend is pregnant, deny that the baby is there's, then the mother has to raise the child on her own.
You said your bf is going to be uncle, you and your boyfriend could baby sit his sister inlaws baby together, you said you've baby sat kids in your family, you do the fame here too.

There's alot of women on here that will tell you that its better to wait, im 18 and pregnant for the first time, and i think i would enjoy this pregnancy alot more if i was done school..going to schoolpregnant is not very fun. and telling the parents, was not very peachy either. But i dont regret a thing, i just would have wanted to wait a while first.

Maybe you could talk to a school counsellor, or your mother about this. Its good to be open with your parents about things, it lets them know you trust them. Maybe getting it out in the open with your mom or someone in your family would help you feel a little better too.

i think your doing a great job, in the end i think you'll be glad that you waited.

if you need to pm me you can anytime

.krystine
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Lilly Ivy
replied on June 4th, 2008
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stay on birth control and get a parrot.

I was the same way, and the parrot seriously helped... well, it made me want to rip my hair out anyway, lol.
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forbiddenbuttrying
replied on June 5th, 2008
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I am 15 years old and I am 8-9 weeks pregnant... I know that you say that you want this but please trust me when I say this it is not the best thing for you right now... The guy you are with can turn into a total skumbag like mine did... Please do yourself and your future baby a favor and wait... Yes I bet you could handle it I have raised 2 of my cousins and one is handicap their whole lives and they are almost 7 and 5... Do you honestly believe that you could bring a baby into this world at 15 and in highschool and raise it and be able to give it everything that it needs or wants... I know how you feel I wanted a baby for so long and now I finally am having one but I can't help but wake up in tears everyday thinking that I am going to ruin this kids life or that I am not going to be able to do this... I only have a summer job... The dad has 3 jobs and about to be 4 and we still are not going to be able to do this... He left me as soon as he found out and said it is not his and even if it was he wanted me to get an abortion... Yes he is starting to come around to it now but still do you think that you can handle all of that... Think about the baby and do what would be best for him/ her and wait until you are at least out od highschool and have a job and can keep a roof over the baby's head at all times... If you need anything feel free to contact me...

Aubrey
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softerxsin
replied on June 5th, 2008
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those are all perfect reasons to keep on waiting! get on birth control take it the same time everyday and use condoms and you should be fine. and if i were you i would go get a puppy. its not the same thing but they are still just as fun. (dont get a beagle, mine is a little devil)
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jessamyn
replied on June 6th, 2008
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AHve you discussed these feeling with anyone in your family?
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