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macoto
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depression and work
Posted: 05-23-08 09:32am
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I was just wondering how people with
depression handle work. Do you tell your
boss or anyone you work with?
I've had depression for at least 16 years.
Over the past 3 years I have had 5
different jobs. Today I just couldn't get
out of bed. I can't force myself to go to
the office and I'm pretty sure eventually
I'm going to either quit again or get
fired.
thanks
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Posted: 05-28-08 03:04am
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That's a good question. I hope someone
replies that may have the answer for you.
I'd be interested to here what they
suggest. I don't know if I would
personally tell them.
Do you take antidepressents for the
depression?
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macoto
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Posted: 05-28-08 11:39am
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Well I suffer from anxiety as well and
that's been taking it's toll in the job.
I don't know how much longer I can last.
I am on antidepressents, and have off-and
on for over a decade, but they don't seem
to work.
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harmony1
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Posted: 05-28-08 19:32pm
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Hi Mocoto,
Have you tried different anti
depressents. Thare are so many out there
that sometimes it takes time to find the
right ones. There are anti depressents
that should help with the anxiety too.
Have you seen a psychologist? i did and I
found it a little helpful.
I would suggest finding a good doctor and
together finding the medication that works
for you. (if you haven't already tried )
Harmony1 xo
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Posted: 05-28-08 20:00pm
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TALK TO A DOCTOR! Get on a good
antidepressant before it gets out of hand.
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macoto
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Posted: 05-29-08 10:29am
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I'm actually already seeing doctors every
2 weeks and have tried so many kinds of
medications I can't even remember them
all. The doctor says I it may take up to
six weeks for the meds I'm taking now to
take effect. But when every day it gets
more and more difficult for me to force
myself to get out of bed and go to work,
six weeks seems like a really long time.
And that's assuming that the meds have any
effect at all.
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harmony1
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Posted: 05-29-08 18:49pm
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What about a psychologist?
Maybe try telling the people you work with
that you suffer from depression. I know I
said I probably wouldn't but maybe it
could be a good thing if they knew. They
could be a little more understanding and
supporting.
Or could it be that you don't really like
your job?? There's nothing worse then
working in a job you truely hate. I worked
at a place for 5 yrs. Didin't love it but
I didn't hate it so it was good. Then
recently I worked at a job for 8 months
and boy did I hate it so eventually I
left. Never felt better. The place just
wasn't me.. I'd advice finding a new job
first lol Something i didn't do..
Otherwise just try and hang in there. stay
positive and know that each day is closer
to you feeling better. ( I know that must
sound really hard to you right now but
thats what you have to do for yourself)
Take it easy,
Harmony1 xo
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macoto
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Posted: 05-29-08 22:38pm
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I'm seeing a psychologist and a
psychiatrist about every two or three
weeks, though my insurance only covers 12
visits a year and I've used about half of
those up. We talk but I honestly don't
get much out of it. It's just someone to
talk to every once in a while (I don't
have any friends/family here). I don't
like my job, but I've never liked any job
I've had. I thought this one was going to
be different, but... it didn't really turn
out that way. Part of it is my fault.
I'm trying to stay on. The last job I had
I only lasted six months. The job before
that just four months. I can't just go
around jumping between jobs or eventually
no one will hire me.
I've been told things will get better most
of my adult life. I've been doing this
all my life and sometimes I just get tired
and I feel like I don't want to go on
anymore. Sometimes things are better but
they're never really good.
I can't quit my job now. I need the
insurance to fatten the the doctors who
give me drugs that make me sick and
"therapy" that doesn't do anything.
Sorry to whine and complain
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Posted: 05-30-08 19:49pm
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DO you have any problems ith addictions?
IE drinking Sorry to hear that you're
having such a hard time- If they've tried
so many anti depressents and nothing is
working could it be something else that
could be upsetting you.
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macoto
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Posted: 05-30-08 21:43pm
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I don't know if I have any problems. I
drink heavily on weekends. It helps to
pass the time. I guess I don't think as
much when I drink.
I'm not upset. There's not one thing I'm
upset about. Unless you consider
everything something.
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Macoto
Posted: 06-05-08 11:13am
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Have you tried to go on disability?
When I got manic depression, I was put on
some form of assistance and that helped.
Instead of working, I found a volunteer
position that I liked. Years later, I am
still volunteering.
Have you thought of that?
I hope you can overcome this and stop
drinking so heavily on the weekends.
Always
Muthoni (Mson)
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Posted: 06-06-08 02:31am
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Hi macoto. Sorry to hear that you're
feeling so down. There are some great
people here at eHealth who really care and
want to help...
In my personal experience, I don't inform
my employers that I experience depression.
I feel like I've recovered now, but I
used to call in sick. I also found a
"sliding scale" mental clinic that I could
afford through the United Way and the
university I lived close to. Sessions
were $17 each at the time (5 years ago)
and I went once a week to individual
session and once a week to group sessions.
It really helped.
I think that you need PEOPLE. Have you
thought about seeking out help from a 12
step group? If you're drinking to feel
better this can help you. Just a
suggestion...
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macoto
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Re: Macoto
Posted: 06-08-08 21:26pm
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| Muthoni
wrote: | Have you tried to go on
disability?
When I got manic depression, I was put on
some form of assistance and that helped.
Instead of working, I found a volunteer
position that I liked. Years later, I am
still volunteering.
Have you thought of that?
I hope you can overcome this and stop
drinking so heavily on the weekends.
Always
Muthoni
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I stopped drinking but it doesn't help. I
just did it to shut people up. I saw my
doctor last week and she upped the dosage
of the medication I've been taking. So
far it hasn't made any difference either
and I doubt that it ever will.
I don't want to be put on "assistance". I
don't even know what that means.
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macoto
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Posted: 06-08-08 21:38pm
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| yogahoneybunny
wrote: | Hi macoto. Sorry to hear
that you're feeling so down. There are
some great people here at eHealth who
really care and want to help...
In my personal experience, I don't inform
my employers that I experience depression.
I feel like I've recovered now, but I
used to call in sick. I also found a
"sliding scale" mental clinic that I could
afford through the United Way and the
university I lived close to. Sessions
were $17 each at the time (5 years ago)
and I went once a week to individual
session and once a week to group sessions.
It really helped.
I think that you need PEOPLE. Have you
thought about seeking out help from a 12
step group? If you're drinking to feel
better this can help you. Just a
suggestion... |
I'm already going to a medical clinic.
When I wasn't working I went to one that
was paid for by the county and I didn't
have to pay anything except $2 for the
medication. That's not the issue.
I don't think I need a 12 step group. For
one I'm not a drunk. I only drink
sometimes on the weekends. Secondly, I've
already stopped drinking because I got
sick of everyone telling me to. And
thirdly I'm not religious and so most of
the 12 steps don't apply to me.
I didn't necessarily drink to feel better.
I drank to pass the time. There's
nothing else I feel like doing on the
weekends but sleep.
I'm probably going to stay at my job for
just a couple more months if I can stand
it. Then I'm going to quit. I don't know
what I'm going to do after that.
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Macoto
Posted: 06-08-08 23:49pm
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Going on assistance is the same as going
on disability pension.
Always
Muthoni (Mson)
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Posted: 06-11-08 05:47am
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Hey macoto, I totally umderstand what
you're saying because I'm much the same
way. I have suffered with depression for
the last three years and, even though I'm
better now than I was, I still get days
where everything seems pointless. I have
done all sorts of different jobs because I
keep thinking that the next one I do will
be the one to make me happy. The reality
is that very few people are lucky enough
to truly enjoy their jobs, I guess I'm
going to have to just accept that.
I know what you mean about not being able
to get up to go to work. To someone who
has not suffered depression it sounds like
laziness but it truly isn't - it's like
even putting clothes on is an effort of
gargantuan proportions. It's like every
bloody day is just the same as the
previous one and what's the point anyway
because it's so boring. I used to dread
going to bed at night because I'd have to
wake up and do another day.
Anyway, I am a lot better now. After
trying several different tablets I was put
on Effexor and after 7 months I cam off
them. I haven't lapsed so badly since
though I am aware that I have a tendency
towards depression.
Your weekend drinking was a natural
reaction to your depression - personally I
binge eat. Everyone has something that is
their coping mechanism. It's good that
you've managed to cut down or stop though
because even though you are not an
alcoholic now, depression can be a
slippery slope.
Are there any charities you feel
passionate about? Do you love animals for
example? Perhaps you could get a pet;
animals are usually nicer than humans and
can be a great source of comfort for a
depressed and lonely person. Maybe you
could volunteer at a rescue sanctuary or
something - just a couple of hours a week.
It helps to feel you are making a
difference in the world.
Anyway, these are just a few suggestions.
Please do not give up hope that things
will get better. You're not alone.
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