depressed over girl

It's hard when you love someone that doesn't love you back. I've been there plenty of times in my life. There is someone out there for you. you just have to let this one go in order to see all the opportunities around you.

I know how you feel, I was married for 10 years then my husband ran off with another woman. I had to move on.

I started dating, and sure enough found a really nice guy and got remarried. I am happy with my current husband. But I still feel pain from loosing my first marriage.

I think it dies out after some time has passed. Hopefully you can find someone new to move forward with.

I know excatly what you are going through...
It sounds like you have a case of unrequited love, something i suffer from also. When you feel something strong towards some one that does not share these feelings back...
The out come of your whole day depends solely on whether of not you get to talk to this person that day. When you live in your own little world where you make it seem like some how you can get her to feel the same way, and every once in a while you realize how pathetic you are.... for still trying...for not getting it. You tell yourself you need to just find some one else...

You try and put your self out there and what do you get? Nothing.. more rejection. So you find yourself back where you were.

Its not easy, especially when you start to see this person you feel so strongly about try and get involved with other people. In fact its Hell.

But the truth of the matter is this is an extremely common situation... It was been writen about in books, and there are more songs about it then you could possibly count. Like Pearl Jam's song "I Got Id" for example. "And I stay in bed. Oh, little ive seen there. If just once I could feel loved, oh, Stare back at me." is a line out of the song that shows how the he yearns for her to be next to her, and for her to look back at him the same way he looks at her.

One way I try make it not hurt so much is by trying to put myself in the other persons shoes. What would you do if you knew some one who felt something for you, when you felt nothing back? Should you have to go into a relationship with this person just so you don't have to let them down? You should never be forced into a relationship with some one you have no feelings for. Its bad for everybody.

But no matter what, Its still hard. Especially if you still keep in contact with this person... I guess all you can really do is wait it out. Try and stay sane.

Well she said she loves you but isn't in love with you. Maybe you hurt her a whole lot and need to prove to her that you can change and won't hurt her again. Keep fighting for her I say.

ima keep fightin till i die,but now i just like being alone,sometimes it hurts just going out to eat bye myself,i does or going to the race track seeing other people with there love ones it hurts really bad

Yeah, I know how that can feel.

I totally understand how it feels to love and not to be loved back. just think about this, you are still so young. although it may seem that the world is over because this girl does not love you back, you have still so much to see, learn, and live. after many heartaches, i am finally with the man that i love. we have been married for 2 years. when you are young, it's about dating and exploring. there are so many girls out there for you that would love to be with you.

i hope that things either a) work out for you or b) you let yourself grieve then learn to let her go. i don't waht you to still be yearning for a girl who is no longer in life 8 or 9 years down the road, like i am. at least you got the chance to be with her, the girl i fell for was already taken. besides, if one girl can love you, others can love you. hang in there man.

I am so in love with this girl at my school, I am a senior and she is a junior. I have never felt this way about anyone in my life. I went out with this girl in 6th grade and I thought I liked her, well that doesn't even compare to this. I have never even met this girl, but I feel like she is my soul mate. I think about her every day and I lose sleep thinking about her. Every time I see her my heart drops. I have lost interest in absolutely everything in my life. I have never been a depressed person, I always make people laugh, and I am usually a happy guy. It's like it hit me out of no where that I have such strong feelings for this girl. She seems like she is so far out of my league, so I am kind of scared to talk to her. I know I sound kind of stupid, but I have to deal with this everyday. My life is going downhill because I am not with this girl. I know I have to let her know how I feel at some point, but if you have any help, please let me know what I should do.

I know how you feel man I loved a girl too and still love her, but she likes my best friend. I was in my house alone screaming at God (apologized later) telling him if I could have only one thing it would be this girl. I didn't care what I had to give up cause she was my only reason for ever living. And I just dont know what to do with my life.

Love at first sight and Zavior,

I know how both of you feel. Please, you have to let these women go. For your own sake, let them. I have been depressed about one girl for 4 years. Now that I am in college I see her every 6 months or so and I still think about her at least an hour a day. She has become such an engrained part of my life now that it has become impossible to get over her. I have tried everything and continuously make a fool of myself even to this day. You need to remove these people from your life. Right now, it may seem like you can still "get the girl" but down the road, all possible avenues will likely close down and you will be stuck without being able to move on, you will be depressed at a moments notice just by a song or a reference of her name. You will see others on the street that walk like her or you will hear a laugh that resembles hers and you will turn, only to realize she is thousands of miles away, at some party, possibly making out with or getting even more personal with some stranger who hasnt given her anything but a few drinks and a couple of jokes. Do you want to be this guy. No, you dont. Take it from someone whose life is currently ruined with no feasible end in sight. Drop this girl. Like a rock. While you still can.

wow all of these post have been very helpful to me i think i klnow what i needa doty u all i though dpression forums were or wack jobs lol well i guess im one jk thank u stargers have been more help then neone else

hey guys im an 18 yr old lad thats is engaged to me gf but i dnt live near her n i love her so much its hurtin me inside n alls im doing is pushin her away but i really do love her n care bout her i dnt no what to do its like im obessed with this 1 girl i cant get her off me mind what shud i do

my girlfriend just broke up with me about 2 days before I moved to a brand new place where i do not know anybody, I do not know anything its like everything is new to me. I just moved to this place about 3 weeks ago. I love this girl soo much but she already told me she doesnt care about me at all. I did soo much for her and I told her it would work. I was only going away for a year and would move back. I found out she didnt break up with me because i was moving, she broke up with me because she finally got more freedom from her parents to do what ever she wants when ever she wants and to who ever she wants. She was living in a very strickt family when i was with her. I feel like she used me to keep her busy while she was home and when she finally got the oppertunity to have the time of her life forgot about the person that did everything for her when no body else was there. She is very very beautiful and always has many guys on their knees wanting to get with her. I am just 20 years old, valentines day i called her to find she was sleeping with another guy. After that day it feels like someone teared my heart in half, I really didnt do anything to her to hurt her I was always trying to make her the happiest person in the world i really did love her very much and I really do miss her. I try to go out and get over her but I am living by my self in a new place where a lot of people do not talk to strangers so i have no one absolutely no one. I even told her i still loved her about a week ago she just ignored it which hurt even more so i stopped contact with her to try to make it help. I dont think i will get over this girl for a very long time. Hurts but thats life i guess. Sometimes its just a big '?'. What all of you guys wrote was great it really did help me a lot got my mind off a lot of things and i specially like what the guy wrote about...how shes thousands of kms away making out with some guy that just gave her a couple of drinks and jokes. That is really true thats how realtionships are you can give the girl your world, and she will step on it and some guy and come crack a couple jokes and give her a couple drinks and he already got what he wanted. Life is very unfortunate to some, I hope you hang in there buddy you are just a couple years younger then me and I know exactly what you are going through. Try to go out wih friends always keep with your friends and family those are the onlly people that will keep you from feeling down. Being by yourself all day will not help it just give you more time to think. Dont necessary try to meet new girls to get over your last one. Just know you friends and family are there for you no matter what and that will make you feel better because it will be a way harder blow if you did go out and end up getting rejected by some random girl it would just make your blow even harder give it time im only 20 and this is already my 2nd heart breaking break up. A lot of you guys are lucky you even have friends or family around you. I don't have any, living by myself in a new place.

can someone help or tell me what is wrong with me ?? ok i obvious have low self confidence i know that, also alot of this may bed in my mind, but if it is what can i do please.
ok i hate going to resturants or places that have attractive looking girls working there. i like kind of hide my face. and get very uncomfortable. family and friends tell me i am nice looking guy,and that you dont always notice if a girl is looking at you. but i will like get so depressed and if i am at a resturant i will sometimes look to see if the girl looks at me, and if she doesnt i get really down. its only around girls. sometimes i hide, but sometimes i look at by end of night i just get so depressed if a girl has not looked at me at all, i feel like i am a ghost to girls. even when i think i do dress really nice and stuff. but then i go home so depressed and sometimes even masterbate. i am just being honest. can someone please help or be honest with me. thanks
John

Im going though all of this right now, when i see other couples of even my own family holding hands or somthing it hurts so bad! that they find it so easy!

I had a girl in college, we started off seeing each other, and as time went by i wanted to be more than that and she didnt. She asked me not to mention it again coz i got her really upset about(she had her heart broken in the past and i guess she didnt want a proper reletionship in fear of it happening again?). I didnt talk about for a while before i cracked and had to ask again! She said no again.

And just like that shes became so distant towards me, i try n talk to her in college, txt or MSN but its always short sweet replys and if somone else talks to her, she can easly have a full interesting convo with them?! and it kills, the though of her Hating me.

i really want her back, but shes so far away(in a figure of speaking) i dont know wat to do?

You only have to accept the fact and be humbled by the reality. Think of it as something that would teach you, either to make you strong or let you experience true love. I had the same situation but only with a guy. I suffered from depression for four years but time heals the wound and forgiveness to others and yourself would set you free.