Joined: 26 Mar 2008 Posts: 18 Location: Salinas, Ca US
Depressed over ex-girlfriend Posted: 03-26-08 12:48pm
I my ex-girlfriend broke up with me about
two years ago since that I have been
really depressed and havent found a way to
get through it. I cant to get out of this
rut. The first week she had dump me I said
to myself I dont need her they are plenty
of girls out thier. I started to date
other girls but soon found out that I was
missing my girl Daisy. I tried enjoying
myself with other girls but found myself
comparing them to Daisy. After that I got
depererate and tried to get her back but
she had already made up her mind not to be
with me and be single. Soon after I had
found out from her friends thats she was
already seeing her ex-boyfriend. I kinda
had an idea that she was she was seeing
him. At this point I thought I can use my
friends right about now. The bad thing was
that Daisy also was friends with the guys
I would hang out with. After our break up
she would hang out with all the group of
friends that I would hang out with so it
kinda gave me no place to go. I dont
really hang out with my friends for that
reason. After feeling abonded by all my
friends I turned to drugs and alcohol and
managed to get a dui. I guess is that I
have been unhappy all this time and I
wonder if I should try to get her back
even though she is with her ex and doesnt
really want to speak to me. Should I
attempt. I cant seem to forget her. What I
mean to attempt to get her back is to show
her that I can do better and offer an
awsome life with me.
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Hart74
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Posted: 03-28-08 13:12pm
Dear fontz831,
Depressed over your ex for a short term is
okay it's natural as you've being spending
time with her, caring for her etc but if
it shall go on for a long period of time
like as you said 2 years I don't think
it's healthy and what's more to drugs and
alcohol.
Have you tried doing other things like
channeling your feeling, anger, boredom
etc towards healthy things like sports or
other recreations? As you said that she
and your friends are friends why not just
go out with your friends and meet her with
her boyfriend and let yourself 'fight' the
feeling for her, to become neutral - as
friends I mean. You've already taken the
first step by coming here the next step is
to let go the feelings inside don't bottle
it up. Good luck -Hart74
