Then turn the tables on him....Make yourself the lover...Sex can be boring if that's all there is in a relationship...We have fun just plain messing around with life...Be who you used to be....Have you changed?...Find who you were before....Personally, I would be super pissed off if my man turned over and said "not tonight dear"...If he doesn't respond then think twice about the relationship...

Caroline

How can I not blame him for this?
He ignores me for the most part and when he does decide to give me some attention, he spends it yelling at me. I feel stuck and the only relief I get is when I'm asleep.

That is a statement then for him to say sex isn't fun anymore..

There is an old saying Takes two to Tango..(IF)-you want to give it a shot why not do like Caroline above is talking about..Turn the tables-you be the aggresor, plan out what you want to do and go for it..(Of course you don't have to follow a plan-it's just a guideline)..

An appetizer of cold shrimp on ice with sauce
A bottle of wine
Baked Talipa with side dish of mixed rice, peas, carrots
Buttered corn rolls
small salad with vinegar and oil

Table set with your best china and table cover..very low candle sweet music in the background..
Dress provactively making sure as you move that your clothing or lack of moves aside as well to reveal..wear a cheap necklace whose length lies just between the breasts..(cheap costume jewelry easier to replace when broken in passion)..
Let there be the lightest hint of perfume as you move..

You already know how to do all this..It's do you want to? What would happen if you did? Sometimes we as women forget how routine life becomes and just maybe we do allow sex to become just that- sex-but where is the romance? Don't be afraid-your answers to your questions will come to you one way or another..

If he is interested then he will see you listened even though you were hurt..If he is playing a game and doesn't care you will then have a decision to make about what you are willing to accept in life..

some say that men get bored fast! some men ignore the best thing in their lives, and cry about it when it leaves. some say men don't change "a leopard wont change it's spots.
how long has it been since you known him. have you heard of the six month rule. this is the average time it takes to get to know someone, and for you to feel comfortable with saying anything to your partner.
you have to believe that you are beautiful, you are a diamond, very precious you deserve for your b/f to treat you with love, respect, and give you attention b/c you know you can find this else where.
if you feel you can fix it through communication, that's fine. if not, move on b/c it's not worth being in a relationship where your feeling this way. if he loves you he should be willing to put some effort in fixing the relationship, it cant be one sided.