dealing with bipolar wife Posted: 05-22-08 17:24pm
She flips out around spring/summer,I
become the enemy and she leaves. I will be
seeing her this weekend,I need all the
advice I can get.How can I talk to her
about coming home and getting help?Is
there a way to approach her and reason
with her without her going into a
frenzy[she avoids reality and the strain
this is putting on our relationship at all
cost].I must add that the longer she's
away from home the worse her mind
becomes.What can I do and say to get
through? I am at my ends,if I cant make
her understand[i've tried every approach I
know].IF something does'nt give,I'm afraid
I will,for my own sanity.I dont see any
other option,It hurt's because I love my
wife but I cant go on like this.She is'nt
giving me a choice.What do I do?
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steve sbg007
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my wife Posted: 05-22-08 17:35pm
I posted on [how do i deal with a bipolar
wife] before,I'm new to this forum.
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CarolDiane
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Posted: 05-23-08 07:03am
Understand Bipolar is the first step in
dealing with it. The more you know about
the ongoing cycles and medication that is
available is a good start. Is you wife now
undergoing theropy?
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steve sbg007
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my wife Posted: 05-25-08 17:00pm
I understand,but I cant help her,she is'nt
here.I cant get through.As far as theropy
right now no,but she has been before says
she's going back[doc's orders].There is
alot more to this story and I mean
alot.Something has to give,my mentality
myself is becomeing unstable.This is a
nightmare,I honestly feal I'm going to
lose my sanity if I keep holding on,I've
held on so long.I love my wife,this is
killing me
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CarolDiane
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Posted: 05-25-08 17:17pm
You obviously have put alot into this
marriage with her disorder. I think it is
time you realize there is only so much you
can do. If you can't get through at least
you are there for her even if she is not
really aware sometimes. Sounds like she is
pretty deep into Bipolar and could really
use some very hard consuling. Not knowing
the whole story it is somewhat hard to
advice you much more. You don't have
anything to hide here on ehealth. We are
here to help you in anyway we can and that
is our goal. We all somehow have been
there and done that. Please think about
giving us the whole picture so we can help
you.
In my thoughts,
Carrie
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Posted: 05-25-08 23:53pm
Steve,
I replied to your first post. I am sorry
to hear that you are still having
difficulty with this.
Spring is really a rough time of the year
for those with bipolar disorder. Manic
behavior seems to exacerbate during the
spring.
It is so hard to get someone to go for
help if they are unwilling. You need to
remember that if you don't take care of
yourself then you will not be able to be
there for your wife. Find a therapist who
has experience with bipolar disorder and
go for yourself. It is important that the
therapist knows about bipolar disorder.
Many of the behaviors can be misconstrued
by someone if they do not understand the
nature of bipolar disorder. You need
someone to just listen to you and offer
you some ideas about dealing with your
wife.
The first thing that must happen is that
she is treated with medication. All the
therapy in the world is a waste of time
until some stability is reached. She can
not process or implement the coping skills
she may be given if she is unstable.
Trying to convince her of needing the help
is the rub here. Keep communication open
to her. She will come back and most likely
want help at that point. Jump on it when
the occasion presents itself.
I am concerned for you. This strain is
hard to take. I have a son that is
struggling right now and the stress is
getting to me. I know how difficult things
can be. In many ways you have the more
difficult situation. Adults can choose to
get treatment. Children don't have the
ability to opt out.
We at ehealth are here for you. We can try
to offer suggestions. Keep us posted.
