I posted on [how do i deal with a bipolar wife] before,I'm new to this forum.

Understand Bipolar is the first step in dealing with it. The more you know about the ongoing cycles and medication that is available is a good start. Is you wife now undergoing theropy?

I understand,but I cant help her,she is'nt here.I cant get through.As far as theropy right now no,but she has been before says she's going back[doc's orders].There is alot more to this story and I mean alot.Something has to give,my mentality myself is becomeing unstable.This is a nightmare,I honestly feal I'm going to lose my sanity if I keep holding on,I've held on so long.I love my wife,this is killing me

You obviously have put alot into this marriage with her disorder. I think it is time you realize there is only so much you can do. If you can't get through at least you are there for her even if she is not really aware sometimes. Sounds like she is pretty deep into Bipolar and could really use some very hard consuling. Not knowing the whole story it is somewhat hard to advice you much more. You don't have anything to hide here on ehealth. We are here to help you in anyway we can and that is our goal. We all somehow have been there and done that. Please think about giving us the whole picture so we can help you.

In my thoughts,
Carrie

Steve,

I replied to your first post. I am sorry to hear that you are still having difficulty with this.

Spring is really a rough time of the year for those with bipolar disorder. Manic behavior seems to exacerbate during the spring.

It is so hard to get someone to go for help if they are unwilling. You need to remember that if you don't take care of yourself then you will not be able to be there for your wife. Find a therapist who has experience with bipolar disorder and go for yourself. It is important that the therapist knows about bipolar disorder. Many of the behaviors can be misconstrued by someone if they do not understand the nature of bipolar disorder. You need someone to just listen to you and offer you some ideas about dealing with your wife.

The first thing that must happen is that she is treated with medication. All the therapy in the world is a waste of time until some stability is reached. She can not process or implement the coping skills she may be given if she is unstable. Trying to convince her of needing the help is the rub here. Keep communication open to her. She will come back and most likely want help at that point. Jump on it when the occasion presents itself.

I am concerned for you. This strain is hard to take. I have a son that is struggling right now and the stress is getting to me. I know how difficult things can be. In many ways you have the more difficult situation. Adults can choose to get treatment. Children don't have the ability to opt out.

We at ehealth are here for you. We can try to offer suggestions. Keep us posted.